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Do i have to let my guests know there will be no wedding this year?

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Claudia, on July 16, 2020 at 2:04 AM

My wedding date is October 10, 2020. We ordered and received our invites about 4 mos before the date (in late June/early July), but we literally on the 90 day mark decided to postpone. So we did not and will not send out invites. So the only thing guests received was our “Save the date” months prior. With the save the date, we sent out a little note about possibly having to postpone depending on what the situation is. So my question is, do I have to send something out to everyone in the mail again? A formal type like another change the date, but I don’t know the actual date yet since we are still working with the venue? Or do I wait? In reality, we plan to elope on our date 10/10/20, then do a vow renewal and reception (like a wedding) on our 1 year anniversary since we have already paid off the 250 guest wedding. I kind of feel obligated to send something out, but there’s no more “normal” during all of this. Or should I wait to let everyone know we eloped and save the date for a vow renewal? Jut looking for all your thoughts here. I know it’s crazy times and lots of unknowns so looking for some support or find what you all have done.

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Judith · on July 17, 2020 at 7:14 AM
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Since the only thing sent out was an informal communication, a Save the Date, yes to do need to notify each household. But the notice can be informal as well. Tell them in person, tell them by phone, in a note or a card, or tell them in an individually addressed email. ( The message can be copied over and over, but having only 1 recipient's address makes it informal/ social communication, where a group blast is like junk mail or a business memo. You need a you-to a -person or household them. Less likely to go in a spam filter, too. ) Had you sent a formal invitation, then a mailing or phone call ( short notice only) would be required.
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Yasmine · on July 17, 2020 at 8:33 AM
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Good idea!
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Carmien · on July 17, 2020 at 9:13 AM
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Claudia - BOY DO I KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH!!!
You do have to send some type of correspondence but not necessarily by snail mail!!!
Ironically our date is the same but one thing I did to save money was send my Save-the Date electronically and asked for everyone to send their email addresses. We also were sending our Official Wedding invites (via Wedding Wire) to save a little more money. I set this deadline for today but the more we (Doug and I) talked about this crazy girl named RONA we decided Live Streaming is the way to go!!!
We both have friends from far away and some elders with health issues so it was a no brainer!!!
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Andrea · on July 17, 2020 at 9:53 AM
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I'm in the same boat, and we have just been emailing or Facebook messaging people. My mom, and FML have been notifying people as well.
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Trinity · on July 17, 2020 at 11:01 AM
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I am not sure if you decided yet. I would talk to them on the phone and then perhaps follow with the new date if you have one. We just postponed our 10/10 to May. So Sad. We are in this together. Love.
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Claudia · on July 17, 2020 at 11:22 PM
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I ended up printing out a little note that I will mail to everyone this week. Thank you for your advice
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Claudia · on July 17, 2020 at 11:23 PM
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Yes thanks, I ended up printing a little note to say it’s been postponed. Thank you for your advice!
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Claudia · on July 17, 2020 at 11:24 PM
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I did end up printing a little note that I will be mailing out to everyone. Just to let them know it has been postponed. Thank you for your advice!
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Claudia · on July 17, 2020 at 11:30 PM
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10/10/20!! Crazy times right?! I really was wanting to wait until the last minute to postpone, BUT makes more sense to just do it now and not stress over it!

I did end up printing up a little note to mail everyone. Figured it was the easiest most streamlined way since that’s how we did the save the dates and do not have everyone’s email but we do have all mail addresses.
Good luck with your zoom planning! Should be “one for the books”!
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Claudia · on July 17, 2020 at 11:31 PM
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Since I have everyone’s address, I decided to mail out a little note to all. Easiest way to get everyone on the big guest list. Thank you for your response!
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Claudia · on July 17, 2020 at 11:33 PM
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I ended up printing up a little note to mail out. That way I get everyone on the list in one shot with the same message.
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Anna · on July 18, 2020 at 12:52 AM
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Sounds good. Hope everything goes well!!
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Carmien · on July 18, 2020 at 11:36 AM
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Thanks , you too!!
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Kelly · on August 1, 2020 at 6:55 PM
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I share the same date and will be doing the same thing! I’m going to send out elopement notices but also including a save the date for vow renewal ♥️
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Jana · on August 1, 2020 at 7:00 PM
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Definitely send some type of notice, whether by phone/email/postcard. Your guests scheduled to have that day free for your wedding and they deserve the courtesy of a heads up that it will be postponed.
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Claudia · on August 4, 2020 at 3:22 AM
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I really love the vow renewal idea!
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Selena · on August 16, 2020 at 8:22 PM
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Hello, how are you? Where did you make that poster at? I’m trying to make one to send out for my postponed wedding also.
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Sara · on August 17, 2020 at 5:32 PM
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Same boat, we had just gotten our invites when we decided to postpone. Instead of wasting envelopes, we printed out a letter explaining that we will be postponing and canceling all wedding related activities (bridal showers) and that a new save the date would be sent out in the spring.
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