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Claudia
Dedicated October 2020

Do i have to let my guests know there will be no wedding this year?

Claudia, on July 16, 2020 at 2:04 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 58
My wedding date is October 10, 2020. We ordered and received our invites about 4 mos before the date (in late June/early July), but we literally on the 90 day mark decided to postpone. So we did not and will not send out invites. So the only thing guests received was our “Save the date” months prior. With the save the date, we sent out a little note about possibly having to postpone depending on what the situation is. So my question is, do I have to send something out to everyone in the mail again? A formal type like another change the date, but I don’t know the actual date yet since we are still working with the venue? Or do I wait? In reality, we plan to elope on our date 10/10/20, then do a vow renewal and reception (like a wedding) on our 1 year anniversary since we have already paid off the 250 guest wedding. I kind of feel obligated to send something out, but there’s no more “normal” during all of this. Or should I wait to let everyone know we eloped and save the date for a vow renewal? Jut looking for all your thoughts here. I know it’s crazy times and lots of unknowns so looking for some support or find what you all have done.

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Latest activity by Sara, on August 17, 2020 at 5:32 PM
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I would absolutely send something since You sent save the dates, people may have cleared their schedules for it. It could even be an email or Just simply a call or something. But you do need to notify guests somehow even if you don’t print something and send it
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  • Claudia
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    Claudia ·
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    Yes, you’re right. I’ll start making contact.
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  • Alyssa
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    Hello! In a similar situation and we just decided to do an email update (we used MailChimp). And then we updated our wedding website to say Postponed until 2021. We almost wanted to send newer “Save the Date again” cards, but we figured with the pandemic, who really knows right?? So we didn’t want to waste money on physical cards again if the new date has to change, yet again. Definitely think the guests should be notified though—they’re waiting to hear from us!
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  • Claudia
    Dedicated October 2020
    Claudia ·
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    Thanks! I didn’t even think of our wedding website. I’ll check out mail chimp! Thank you
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    Master October 2021
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    You could always send change-the-dates if you reschedule/postpone to another date Smiley smile

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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Three of our friends had to move their weddings this year. Two of them texted us to let us know and the third sent us an email.
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    Devoted October 2020
    Chelsea ·
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    Hi date twin! I actually just did this last evening. We sent an email card using paperless post!
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    Yes. Definitely inform your guests especially since you sent STDs already. We were 10/10/20 as well and sent STDs in January. In June we decided to postpone. So last week (on the 90 day mark) FH and I text this general postponement announcement to our guests. We purposely worded it without a date since we were still deciding between 2 new dates. We’ve now finalized 10/30/21 and will mail “change the date” cards in October.


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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You don't have to, but you definitely should.

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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
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    I would definitely send something out to make everyone aware

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    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    Yes, definitely! Otherwise your guests will be confused and waiting for direction on whether they need to make plans or not. If you ordered your STDs from Shutterfly, Minted, etc. they are offering new save the dates for free.

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  • Kevin
    Super October 2021
    Kevin ·
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    We are sending ours out this weekend. It’s basically another save the date, saying this years wedding is moved to next year. We are going to be doing something small in our backyard with our immediate family but no one else really needs to know all your plans. We have some friends and family coming out of state so we decided to send them early so they could cancel flights and hotel and the ones who haven’t gotten them know not to now. Do i have to let my guests know there will be no wedding this year? 2

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  • Sarah
    Savvy October 2021
    Sarah ·
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    We sent "Change the Date" cards to all our friends and family via email on Paperless Post. It was much cheaper / easier than reprinting another round of Save the Dates, while giving everyone the info. We also updated our wedding website. You don't even need to tell people you are eloping. Here's what our digital card looked like:

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  • Sara
    Expert August 2021
    Sara ·
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    We did the same thing, we received our invites then postponed. So we used up the envelopes to send out a letter explaining what was going on and that we look forward to celebrating next year.
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  • Claudia
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    Claudia ·
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    That’s a good idea, gives me a chance to use another one of my engagement photos to send everyone. Thanks
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  • Claudia
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    Claudia ·
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    I guess it really is not a lot of work to let everyone know. Thanks for sharing
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  • Claudia
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    Claudia ·
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    That’s sounds easy enough!
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  • Claudia
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    Claudia ·
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    That’s so cute! Thanks! I guess it really is easy and appropriate to let everyone know, even if I don’t have a date set yet. Thank you!
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  • Claudia
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    True! I will.
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  • Claudia
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    Yes, I’m going to let everyone know by this weekend.
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