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Claudia
Dedicated October 2020

Do i have to let my guests know there will be no wedding this year?

Claudia, on July 16, 2020 at 2:04 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 58

My wedding date is October 10, 2020. We ordered and received our invites about 4 mos before the date (in late June/early July), but we literally on the 90 day mark decided to postpone. So we did not and will not send out invites. So the only thing guests received was our “Save the date” months...
My wedding date is October 10, 2020. We ordered and received our invites about 4 mos before the date (in late June/early July), but we literally on the 90 day mark decided to postpone. So we did not and will not send out invites. So the only thing guests received was our “Save the date” months prior. With the save the date, we sent out a little note about possibly having to postpone depending on what the situation is. So my question is, do I have to send something out to everyone in the mail again? A formal type like another change the date, but I don’t know the actual date yet since we are still working with the venue? Or do I wait? In reality, we plan to elope on our date 10/10/20, then do a vow renewal and reception (like a wedding) on our 1 year anniversary since we have already paid off the 250 guest wedding. I kind of feel obligated to send something out, but there’s no more “normal” during all of this. Or should I wait to let everyone know we eloped and save the date for a vow renewal? Jut looking for all your thoughts here. I know it’s crazy times and lots of unknowns so looking for some support or find what you all have done.

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  • Claudia
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    Good to know! Thank you!
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  • Claudia
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    Good job with it! I like it! Your plan with your family sounds nice, good luck! And thank you!
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  • Claudia
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    That looks really nice! Thank you for your advice!
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  • Claudia
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    I was thinking of doing the same. Thank you for your advice!
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  • Caitlin
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    Yes, you for sure need to let your guests know one way or another! We sent out change the date cards but emailing could be a cheaper alternative.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    I would make contact, even if it isn't anything formal. We have friends in the identical situation (sent out save the dates, but then cancelled before the wedding invites were sent out). The friend literally just messaged my husband on Facebook explaining the situation, and telling us that there would be a celebration held next year and that we'd receive an invitation for that once it gets closer. That seemed perfectly adequate to me... What you're having to deal with changing your wedding and everything due to the virus is horrible enough as is, and I would definitely not expect a couple in your shoes to be spending more money to send me a formal postpone notice. As long as you tell everyone, even informally, that is fine. And send a real invitation when you have the details for the vow renewal.

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    Thank you!! Luckily technology makes it very easy to quickly get the word out about the postponement. Then you can update guests later with a new wedding date.
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  • Margarita
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    I would definitely send something out Incase some are planning on attending , Or just reach out to The guest you sent save the dates to
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    Just Said Yes October 2021
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    My fiance and I just made the decision today to postpone our wedding on 10/10/20 as well. I don't think we'll be sending anything out by mail and will just call or message everyone. We were able to reschedule with our venue for 10/9/2021.
    We have not sent out our official invites yet, but they have been printed. We're throwing around the idea of crossing out the old date, writing in the new one, and writing "Because F Covid"
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  • Claudia
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    Thanks! I’ve decided to send out a note to everyone and have updated our website now
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  • Claudia
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    That’s true, just let everyone know. I think that’s what I was worried about, having to do something formal. Thanks for your input!
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  • Claudia
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    I’ve decided to send out a note to everyone and have updated our website now. Thank you!
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  • Claudia
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    Lol! I was thinking about doing something similar. I don’t want these invites to go to waste! That’s a good idea. A little humor
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  • Alisha
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    I would send something out to let my guest know that your wedding has been postponed. I had to postponed my wedding in August to next year (covid-19), so I sent out a change the date with the new wedding date on it.

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  • Gen
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    Good luck! I’m so sorry you have to deal with it at all Smiley sad
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  • Claudia
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    I have decided to send something out to everyone. Thanks for your advice!
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  • Claudia
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    Thank you!
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  • Alisha
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    You are welcome
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  • Anna
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    I would probably more just send out an informal announcement (text, email, Facebook) that you’re postponing and that more details about new date will be out later.
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    Expert September 2020
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    Well since people received save the dates, they are probably expecting there to be a wedding at some point. I would wait until until you know what your plans are. An email to let guests know the October 10 date this year isnt happening works
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