Do I have to invite my step-children ?????

I'd probably invite them but not be surprised if they didn't come.

He'll regret it if he doesn't. Right now he is bitter and I imagian you are too but one day he is going to look back and want to say he did everything he could to let his kids know that he loves them. Love has amazing capabilities, it has the ability to change the worst of us. His kids are probably really struggling and it's a specially tough if there wasn't any real love between him and his ex-wife so he took all that love and gave it to his kids and now they have to share that. I'm not saying it's right but I've been there and sometimes you do things you regret but you do it more because you want to know that your parent loves you no matter what... If he ever wants that gap bridged, he is going to have to do it.

I agree with Luta. Also, he is the parent. Set a good example of how things should be. Invite them because they are his children and because it's right. If the come, the come. If not, he will have no regrets. Good luck with a tough situation.

I have to agree that it would be better to invite them and have them decline than for FS to be set up for living with the regret of not having them there by his choice. Also, not inviting them only goes further to build the wall higher between FS and his kids, making it all the more difficult to repair the relationship. The present situation may be bad but they will always be his kids... it's my opinion that the relationship should always be left as open as possible on his end.

They are his kids. If you don't invite them he'll miss them as much as you'd miss yours if they weren't there. Plus his family would probably take it the wrong way if they didn't even get an invite.

I agree with the other posters. If you don't invite them it will be something else they can hold over the family as to why not to like you.

He is the parent and therefore has to take the high road. Plus omitting them from the guest list would create a huge rift that would stop any possibility of a relationship in the future. Yes, they should be invited.

As someone who has experienced family rifts, often all it takes is one person reaching out. Sometimes the other people want to, but just don't know how. Take the wedding as a good opportunity to do just that.

I don't know how old the kids are, but they should be invited to their father's wedding. He should probably send a heartfelt letter to each of them individually telling them how much he loves them and how much he misses them in his life. He was hurt by what they did, but it's in the past and you both would like to move past it.

Be the bigger person and invite them. As someone stated, chances are they won't show up. But at least YOU look like the good girl but extending the "olive branch", while they look like brats.

But extending = by extending.

For those of you who asked, his oldest is in college, and the others are in high school.

I would be the bigger person and invite them. If they say no, at least you gave them the opportunity to come and they won't be able to hold it against you down the line.

I agree with Luta, he's probably still upset about this. But he'll regret it if he doesn't try. Just don't be shocked if they don't come

I agree with those who have said to invite them! If they don't come, don't be surprised though! Maybe they will grow up and act like adults by then and you will all be able to forgive and forget! If not at least your FS won't look back and regret not giving them the chance to come.

You and your FH need to take the high road and act like adults. They will probably grow out of their dislike for you as they get older and mature but if you don't invite them you may create a rift that will never be repaired. I would invite them. If they choose not to come then it's not on your shoulders anymore.

I, too, would invite them. If they don't show up then they gave their answer. Who knows? They might actually come. But if you don't invite them, you won't know if they didn't come because they're brats or because you didn't invite them.