Just Said Yes June 2019

dj Dispute

Darcy, on July 2, 2019 at 1:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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Hi there,

I wanted to see if I could get some advice from future or past brides on a huge dispute I am having with our DJ. We recently got married last weekend and it was a 2- day wedding event (It was a Hindu wedding). Throughout it, we have had major hiccups with our DJ, who my husband met at work.

For the first day, he arrived 2 hours late, which delayed all of the setup. Our venue was an outdoor affair and we needed sound so that people can hear/ and be organized in the way we intended. Upon set up, I found out thAt he had forgotten a majority of the music for the program for the night. We had some choreographed dances and he didn't have the music downloaded. Our location was pretty remote so we didn't have any reception to download the music at the last minute.

For the actual wedding day, he didn't play the music for the bridesmaids to walk down the aisle or the music for me, the bride to walk down the aisle, even though he was given it multiple times and even the day of, sent a reminder of this.

For the reception, he didn't MC, we had to have my cousin stepped in to MC, he played the father and daughter song immediately after our first dance without prompt and my father wasn't there because he was feeling very ill. But the DJ didn't prompt us that it was the father-daughter dance anyways, just went right into playing the music.

When I approached him, pretty livid at this point, I told him to turn it off as he didn't announce the dance. He was so pissed, he had been drinking (he had a huge stack of beers at his booth and was already drunk. He told my husband that he could shut us down, he needs to control his woman and that we weren't paying him enough for his services and he could do whatever he wanted. He was told explicitly not to play techno (the venue's neighbors complained about noise in the past from techno music) and played techno the majority of the night.

Lastly, he had promised to bring a photo booth and didn't provide any of it for both days.

What should I do about this? He's asking us for more money 50% more to be exact and I actually feel that we should recover some of the money we paid him.

BTW - we paid him in full before the wedding.


  • CourtneyBrittain
    Master August 2019
    CourtneyBrittain ·
    I definitely wouldn’t pay him a penny more than what you owe him, see if he will sit and discuss things with you? You said your husband met him at work, is he a coworker?
  • Simone
    Dedicated April 2020
    Simone ·
    He certainly doesn't deserve anything additional, and if you don't have a contract and didn't promise to pay him anything additional then legally you are not obligated to. Curious why he wants more. Tell him no and leave it at that. While hendodna piss-poor job, you really have no leverage because you paid him in advance. The money is in his pocket and he's not going to give it back. So, as frustrated as you are, let this be a big lesson to you going forward in your business dealings. But absolutely do not give him any additional funds. I would have been livid too.
  • Sarah
    VIP September 2019
    Sarah ·
    Did you have a contract with the times and services listed, as well as the cost?
  • Nemo
    VIP August 2018
    Nemo ·

    Did you have a contract? What are his grounds for demanding more money? From what you've posted, I agree that you should be getting a refund. His behavior (getting drunk on the job) was completely unacceptable. He didn't provide services you asked for and paid for. Do you have your requests to him in writing?

  • Christine
    Devoted September 2020
    Christine ·

    Do you have any sort of written agreement with him? You can try to take him to small claims court or resolve this through mediation, but I think realistically it will be incredibly hard to get your money back. If his DJ "business" is up on Yelp, WeddingWire, The Knot, etc. then I would also write him an awful review so that people know not to choose him for their own wedding. And absolutely do not give him any additional money, and make sure your husband knows not to give him any extra money as well.

  • Emily
    Expert April 2020
    Emily ·

    I agree with others here. From what you've written, you definitely don't owe him any more, in fact he should owe you. Definitely find his social media channels and review him so others will be aware, and read your contract if you have one. How unprofessional to be drinking during work. Show him emails or paperwork of you two interacting about songs and whatnot. Just provide as much backup as you can to prove he did not perform like he said he was going to.

  • FutureMrsD
    Rockstar July 2019
    FutureMrsD ·

    Do you have a signed contract specifying what he will do? 1, I wouldn't pay him anymore at all. 2, if you have a contract and he didn't follow certain parts of it I'd take him to small claims and get your money back. 3, I'd leave reviews EVERYWHERE so other brides don't have to deal with it.

  • Darcy
    Just Said Yes June 2019
    Darcy ·

    My husband met him via work, he was DJing their work Christmas party and he thought he was really good and so decided to have him at our wedding pretty early on. We didn't have a contract as he was just launching his business it seems. He said he had done weddings in the past. We had a written arrangement via email with times, dates, and playlists. And then via text and then via print out.

    He didn't give us a reason for wanting more money, except that he was doing us a *big* favor for being there.

    In terms of payment, we paid him via paypal so we have 180 days to dispute payment if we feel like we want to. So we have leverage there. Should I?

  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
    I'm not sure you have leverage to dispute it with PayPal, especially with no contract. But do not give him a penny more and tell him anymore contact and you'll get a lawyer. He's clearly a scam artist and be sure to place negative reviews where ever you can for him
  • MrsJohansson
    Expert June 2019
    MrsJohansson ·
    Sorry for what happened... but lol how is he asking for more money? I'd dispute with Paypal and ask for some money back. Would help your dispute if you have any video evidence, sworn statements from people who were there who can attest to him not doing things you both set out in the agreement. The written arrangement is your contract.

  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
    Jessica ·
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    Wow.. I am so sorry to read all of this that you went through with your DJ. I would absolutely dispute the payment with PayPal. You paid for a service, and it sounds like he definitely did NOT deliver that service.

  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
    Oh boy. I am so sorry you both went through this. I hope you still had plenty of moments you enjoyed! I would not pay him a penny more. He can ask all he wants, you're not obligated to pay him anything else. As far as what you've already paid, he did render services, albeit poorly and intoxicated, I don't know if it would be a great idea to dispute the charge. If you do have emails establishing what you would pay for services, he may try to take you to court if you cancel your payment. I'm certainly no expert in any of this. It may be best to block him from all forms of communication and move on. I'm just so sorry you crossed paths with this person in the first place.
  • Cristy
    Rockstar May 2020
    Cristy ·

    Even though you don't have a signed "contract", your emails back and forth, as well as texts, are binding agreements. Your up front payment is the consideration that is required to constitute a "contract."

    What you do now really depends on what you want. Do you want your money back? If so, then I would dispute the payment through PayPal, and when you hear back from him, tell him he's not getting one penny of your money because he did not fulfill his part of the contract. When he tries to say you have no contract, inform him that all of the communications between you are considered a contract in the eyes of the law. I would also get written statements from as many of your guests as you can--the ones who witnesses this behavior (especially the drinking on the job) to back you up. You may not need any of it, as he may just go away at the threat of a lawsuit. But get all your ducks in a row so you have all the documentation of your agreements, plus the reality of what happened. Tell him all the evidence you have in writing and then ask him who he thinks the court will believe? The upstanding clients, with a ton of documentation, or the snarly DJ, with nothing?

    If you don't care about getting your money back, I would just ignore all of his attempts to contact you, block him on social media, etc. I would still get all the documentation together so you have it in case you need it later on. I would also post really honest reviews about this guy on Yelp, and WW, if you can. You don't want other couples having to deal with this jerk!

    I'm so sorry this happened to you!! One more horror story that proves we need to do our research, and only hire reputable vendors!!

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