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Distance and Planning

Brooke, on January 12, 2022 at 10:23 AM Posted in Planning 0 9
Hi! I'm totally new to the wedding planning process and was wondering if anyone else has had experiences with the bridesmaids being far apart in distance. Most of them live hours away from me, with my Maid of Honor being in a different country until the wedding. How does this work for planning purposes? Did you do mostly everything yourself or were they still able to help out?


Latest activity by Hanna, on January 13, 2022 at 12:42 AM
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    Dedicated April 2022
    Addie ·
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    In my case my bridesmaid and MOH live out of town. My mom and I planned the whole wedding and I sent them pictures of options and and they would help me narrow down what we liked (decorations, colors, flowers…) as far as dresses they came into town to try on their dresses but you can always order from websites and get pictures to choose what you want them to wear
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  • Cece
    Master November 2022
    Cece ·
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    Each of my bridesmaids are in different states from me and each other. It hasn’t been an issue at all. I think the key to making it work is being really chill and relaxed about things. For instance, I am letting them all choose their own dresses in a particular color, so no one has to make a special trip to try on dresses with me or each other (and since they are picking them out themselves, I know they will like the dresses and feel comfortable in them). Other than that, there are no real “duties” bridesmaids or maids of honor have. They just need to show up on the correct day at the correct time wearing the correct attire.
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  • Genna
    Rockstar October 2024
    Genna ·
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    I'm here for the advice too

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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    Each one of my bridesmaids lives in a different state, and my fiance and I have done all the planning ourselves. If there's anything we need our wedding party's help with or any info we need to send them, we each have a group text going with our sides of the wedding party, so we'll chat with them that way. We found that we really don't need all that much help from them when it comes to wedding planning - we really only use the group chats when it is relevant to them (wedding party attire, rehearsal dinner info, etc). If you want your bridesmaids' input on something, you could do video chat or send them photos and get their opinions that way!
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    Dedicated February 2023
    Elycia ·
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    All of my bridesmaids live out of state from me too. We havent made it to the wedding yet, but heres how im handling it.

    I live in Iowa, my MOH lives in upper MN, the other bridesmaids live in MI, CA, and MA.

    We are doing a wedding party weekend this March to get everyone together. My MOH hasnt even met my husband so we want to be sure they get together and everyone is comfortable. As far as I know, only one bridesmaid isnt coming because she is in her last semester of law school.

    For dress shopping, my MOH will be invited but it's definitely not a must that she tag along. Any of my other bridesmaids who want to be a part of it will join by video chat.

    Bachelorette and bridal shower: my mom and sisters are planning my bridal shower for the same weekend we are having my bachelorette. This way theres only need to travel once. It will be in my home city so I know it well and its a good middle ground for everyone to get to.

    As far as the rest of the planning goes, I am essentially just filling them in through a group chat. My MOH will help plan the bachelorette more heavily. Otherwise there really isnt much else for them to plan.

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  • bevbabe
    Devoted June 2023
    bevbabe ·
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    I mean bridesmaids don't really help you plan the wedding in my experience. I have friends who live all over so I've been in this situation a few times. In terms of activities like the bachelorette or wedding dress shopping we just make a group text and keep each other up to date. Then we travel for those big events to get together. I feel like we do everything the same as if we were in the same area.

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  • Jennifer
    Savvy April 2022
    Jennifer ·
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    I live in the UK, my MOH is in VA and my other bridesmaid is in DE. I’ve FaceTimed them in for big things like dress shopping, and done lots of phone calls about bachelorette parties, bridesmaids dresses, etc but have done most of the actual wedding planning myself. I also let them pick their own dress styles, I just specified the colors from Azazie.
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  • Lindsay
    Savvy June 2023
    Lindsay ·
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    My bridesmaids live in different states as well, and I haven't really needed their help with anything. Most of the planning is being done by myself and our planner, but I occasionally text pictures to my MOH if I'm stuck on making a decision. The other girls just need to pick a dress in a certain color family and show up.
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    My bridesmaids all lived in different states, but it wasn't an issue because bridesmaids aren't really meant to help with wedding planning to begin with in my experience. We used a website to order bridesmaids dresses so that wasn't an issue either. My MOH co-hosted a shower with a family friend but I wasn't involved in planning that. What kind of planning did you envision your bridesmaids helping you with?

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