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What would you do if your FH passed away?

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KM, on August 28, 2014 at 8:46 PM

I know some of you have already been through this and absolutely don't have to engage in this conversation if you don't want to. I know it's a morbid subject, but a girl I went to highschool with just lost her fiance a day and a half ago. She's been all over Facebook, posting pictures with sayings about coping, pictures of them two, his son, etc. I know everyone copes differently, but if my FH passed away unexpectedly less than two days prior, I wouldn't be mentally capable of being social on any format the way she can. I would probably be frozen in the fetal position in a corner somewhere, crying. How do you think you would react? What if he had a motherless child who was now an orphan?

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Master August 2014
SunshineJenn · on August 29, 2014 at 5:18 PM
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I lost my stepdad, whom I was very close with, when I had just turned 23. He died the day after my stepsister's birthday. My mom was inconsolable, and then went on a shopping spree. Spending was (and still is) how she coped.

I spent every night out with friends at bars and clubs. I don't think I really addressed my grief for a few years. If social media had been around then, I probably would have been on it, because I grieve privately. And with wine and beer.
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Master September 2014
LadyMonk · on August 29, 2014 at 5:21 PM
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I don't even want to think about it FH is one of the only people I truly trust (or open up) my emotions to. As much as I think I would just die too, I'm hoping I'd somehow eventually carry on with life. I lost a friend who wasn't even super close and already at that I was a complete wreck. I can't even think of what would happen if I lost anyone closer.
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Master September 2014
OG Mrs.K (2.0) · on August 29, 2014 at 7:43 PM
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Would I grieve? Of course...maybe even spiral downward til I hit rock bottom before I finally picked myself up again. I can't say for sure. I do know I would be devastated and that a piece of me would die with him. While I'm confident that I would eventually become stronger each day and move forward with my life, I don't know that I'd ever be able to give my heart to another man in the same way. I think the hardest part for me would be to love again.
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