What would you do if your FH passed away?

I don't think there is any way to know before you are in that situation honestly.

I would be bea broken mess. My dogs would have to take care of me.

OMg... where is the child's mother??? Girl, IDK.. but social media would not be on my list either.. I would probably get in bed and cry... until i couldnt cry anymore.

Like you said everyone copes differently and that's how she copes. Let it be. And this is def a way to depressing and morbid topic.

Idk where the child's mother is, but I know he was with them all of the time.

I guess I also think about how I would handle it because I'm so far from my family and main support system. I would literally be completely by myself for hours if anything happened. That scares me a little.

It could depend a lot if it was a sudden loss or expected loss, Did he die in a car accident or suffer from cancer for years, and I had time to accept it. I would be a mess either way. I love him more than anyone in this world.

I'm talking about like suddenly, out of nowhere. I would be more okay too if I had time to get used to the idea

My husband is a police officer and trust me there are night where I worry sick especially now a days with everyone hating cops. But I can't think about him not coming home to me every time he works. It's not healthy. I just ask god to protect him.

When my bf died in high school I curled into the fetal position for like 3 months.

in October another bride, a friend, planning a wedding after ours at our church lost her fiance, she left the country, just couldn't handle it, and the memorial was excruciating.

if I lost my husband, you'd probably never hear from me again.

I lock down when I have terrible things like that. I would probably curl in a ball and not eat for several days. I would be so despaired, I have no other idea what I would do.

I'd be a wreck. My dad died two weeks ago and before he died, he was having hallucinatory conversations with our dead dog...and my husband, who is very much alive. This is simultaneously hilarious and scary as hell. He was on a boatload of pain killers (he died from colon cancer) so I'm choosing to think he wasn't talking with the pre-ghost of my husband. But it freaked me out. I'm pretty sure I would be a weeping, crumpled, catatonic ball if something happened to him.

The thing is...when someone you love dies, you have a lot of time in the few days afterwards to process the death. You cry, freak out, get depressed, get angry, miss them, remember random stuff and/or have to tell the same stories over and over and over again. Social media might be a comfort..or not...but grieving is a lonely process and social media is...social. Perhaps this is how she is comforting herself?

Exactly. I wish I was like this girl, and could be mentally healthy enough the DAY AFTER to engage people on facebook with heart emojis, but I know how I handle heartbreak. Last time I even had my heart slightly broken, I lost 15 pounds in less than two weeks and cried until I barfed like every day. And we weren't even really dating.

I'd be like a ghost. I wouldn't want anyone near me. I wouldn't be able to function so I'd need to keep to myself. I'd need everyone to leave me alone so I could grieve.

I lost my significant other in 2009. This is a tough story. I'm not telling it for sympathy. We were dating for about a year and a half, and in July 2007, he was diagnosed with cholangiocarcinoma, a fatal cancer of the liver bile duct. We were reeling from his diagnosis, and still in shock, when I was diagnosed with Inflammatory Breast Cancer (IBC) just three weeks later. IBC is NEARLY fatal. I was late stage. It wasn't looking good for either of us. We toughed it out together, and miraculously, I was declared cancer free after an aggressive chemo treatment and surgery. My SO, Harry, tried a slew of chemos, but in the end, he lost the fight. I DID post on Facebook. I posted his funeral arrangements. I let people know I was okay, even though I really wasn't. I went back to work after two weeks, because I was incapable of feeling sorry for myself anymore. I love my FH, and if he wasn't the very first love of my life, I'd probably still be grieving...I take that back, I'm still grieving. It's just a whole lot easier now.

Oh wow. I know you don't want sympathy, but I'm sorry you had to go through that. Maybe being social and active is just a good way to pull yourself out of it, because you eventually have to, right?

^^What KM said. Sorry you had to go through that.

Aww I don't think you should judge her. Everybody deals differently. She could be putting on a front because people are worried about her. Or trying to feel less lonely by posting on Facebook. You never know.

Oh I'm not judging her...like I said, I wish I was like her

I'm so sorry to hear that Karen but glad that you are doing ok

You need people. I had a few close friends and my sister who took time off of work to sit with me for several days. You can't curl up in a fetal position (although sometimes you want to). If you're lucky (and blessed) like I was, you have a community who doesn't want that to happen to you. I only posted 2x about Harry's passing, but I have another friend who lost her 18 year old son in a car accident. She posts about Daniel all the time. It's been about 2 1/2 years, and she still posts his photos from time to time. I think that no one should judge how another grieves. It's a very individual situation. I, for one, am very grateful to still be here. Otherwise how would I impart my aged wisdom to all you girls (LOL! JK...)