Torn between two venues

Sounds like you really prefer the venue and I think that's a great idea. I would personally hate being dressed up, makeup on and outside on a farm in dead summer. Add bugs in the equation and I'm leaving early.

Also have you considered your rain plan?

Ikr... that's my biggest concern! Tent rental is an expense, but not a deal breaker. I personally have only been to one outside wedding in November and it was at sunset=no bugs. I'm hoping by September, it's not soo hot either.The farm has sentimental value, photos options would be beautiful, and we could do pretty- much whatever we want decoratively. Maybe I need to call a few farm venues and ask how they deal with bug control. I'm thinking food, lights, nice weather could be a disaster:-(

Thank you for the feedback.

Venue.

The venue will definitely be much more manageable, especially because you mentioned you work a lot. Even if it did end up saving you money in the end (which it may or may not with all the neccessary rentals), your time is also valuable! The PP's idea of using it for the rehearsal dinner would be a great way to incorporate this meaningful location.

Also although the OP used the term OCD as an adjective, you do not know if she really does have this disorder. You are literally just arguing semantics...

Thank you! I am new to this site and merely asking opinions/ options from people with experience in attending outside weddings, DIY, or professionals with time restraints. Incorporating the farm as a rehearsal dinner and/or engagement photos. Hmmm, thank you!

I had a very similar situation actually! We were planning on getting married at a family member's home in Upstate New York. That location fell through so we ended up going with a full service catering company/venue (if you are in the Philly area it is Jeffrey Miller Catering/Duke Art Gallery - I highly recommend!). Both FH and I work quite a bit so I couldn't be happier with the change. While the family venue had sentimental value we did not have the time (or experience) to dedicate to making it what we wanted. If you have time and want the sentiment then the family venue is for you - but it is a lot more work!

@Kate Just because she's new here, doesn't mean she should be harassed and basically called an idiot by a long time member. Please also refer @MrsB to these guidelines.

My BIL (H Brother) got married on H's family farm. While it was beautiful, they had to rent everything -

including portable bathrooms It was a lot of work for the family as well to make sure everything was ready for the wedding day. i got married at an all inclusive venue and I would 100% do it just because I didn't have to worry about all the things they went through.

I'm not going to rehash or waste time commenting on the previous "Issue" other than to say, it was completely disrespectful and I have read the guidelines as suggested. I welcome and appreciate all feedback with others' experiences. As people have mentioned, we would be renting everything. FH's family has just begun advertising their place as a venue and who knows what items they may acquire within the next year. The other venue is mostly all-inclusive. It's really easy to get sucked into the mentality of "Hey the venue is free to us, so we can do what we want!" I can tell you that's exactly FH's thought! What else could there be? Lol. I was hoping for feedback that by DIY, we'd save a lot of money and pay some bills! HA

Thank you all!