The Three Things You Will Be Bridezilla About

I think the only thing I would have issue with is if the officiant didn't show up. Without him, we can't get married. Otherwise, the rest of it is just a bonus. I am really trying to keep the attitude that things will not go the way I plan them, so I need to learn to just go with it.

1. Starting on time.

2. Starting on time.

3. Starting on time.

Rings, dress, marriage license.

Florals, food, and having a small guest list. I was nuts about all three. Everything else was secondary.

I also have to add, I know we will all be/were perfect angels on our wedding days. Hehe but I would forgive myself for going a little crazy for these few things!! lol.

Well..I'm already being a bridezilla over

1) the guest list: My mom and dad have already shown their disapproval over my lack of invitations. In my culture, weddings average about 800-900 guests...and I'm at about 300-350, and I'm not budging. I've lost control trying to explain to my family why so-and-so isn't invited.

2) the food: I have my tasting coming up, and if the food isn't delicious....I don't even want to think about it, I don't want to rile myself up this early

3) the photography/videography: For what i've been quoted, it better blow me away.

1. Non-cohesive flow? I was just in a wedding (they got married on my bday) so the bride and groom got me a cake. Well the groom skipped the timeline of toasts and was just like ok well this person is special to us and so we got her something.. I had to stand in front of everyone for TEN MINUTES while the usher tried to get the cake out of a locked fridge and light the candles. I was begging the bride to let me give my MOH speech during this 10 minutes but she just kept saying no its not going to take that long to get this done. Nice gesture? Absolutely. Embarrassing beyond all reason. HELL YES.

2. Mess up with vendor (double booked hotel, no show vendor, etc)

3. Officiant/Marriage License. Need them to get married.

I'm OCD about being on time so I will likely start to stress if we don't start right at 10:30. My pet peeve is people showing up late to things, so if guests are late, that will really piss me off. If my hair stylist is late, I will freak. Being an early wedding, we won't really have the luxury of time.

Yeah -- it will all center around punctuality for me.

1. Ceremony setup ready on time;

2. Officiant being on time;

3. Food served properly (i.e. warm, on time, tasty).

I was lucky enough that all three went perfectly! Our venue almost made us have the ceremony inside, though it wasn't raining anymore. If DH hadn't been able to convince them to set up outside, I would have been a bit annoying to people, lol. Luckily, he and his mom insisted on the ceremony being set up outside, so I didn't have to say a word

1. Food

2. Decor

3. People listening to me and letting me do my thing. ha!

I have been bridezilla about...

- guest list. No, we don't need to keep inviting people so that our family has the same number attending as FH's family. Just because we get declines doesn't mean we go invite some random cousin that I don't know

- guest book. No we don't need a guest book. It reminds me of a funeral. Mom wouldn't relent and I bought a guest book. Mom talks to someone at work who says they are dated and says we don't need one now. OKD = headdesk.

- Guest list - because it was that big of a pain in the a**

1. timeline the day of, I want everything to be on time so i don't get stressed or make my guest wait.

2. my dress/ look, I am giving FH no idea about what i will look like and i want him to be blown away

3. Food, I am having a later wedding and dinner will not be served until 730 or so i want everyone to be satisfied because i know they will all be hungry.

On time, on time, on time. For sure. Because late makes everything else suck.

I'd like to find the MUA's who are an hour late and beat them up.

I was the " I don't give a shit" bride. I was already legally married due to my fathers illness. I refused to stress over things I could not change. I did my best planning. and everything worked out fine.

1. Timing! I am naturally OCD about schedules and people being late, so I am hoping for everyone's sake that no one is late for anything, lol.

2. Rain - the majority of our photos will be taken on a golf course and if it rains, that will definitely limit us and where we can shoot. I am already trying to come up with a rain plan - somewhere indoors that we can go instead if that happens, but I really really hope we don't have to.

3. Music - I took a TON of time picking out our DJ and I hope it was time well spent. I am nuts when it comes to music. I need it to be loud enough that I can get lost in it, but not too loud that people can't talk. Nothing irks me more than watching someone's first dance and not even being able to hear the lyrics to whatever song they're dancing to. They chose the song for a reason, I wanna hear it!

I think all of these are things I can prepare for so hopefully we'll be all good, haha.

1. Cake. I'm putting a significant amount of thought and $$ into design and quality, and want my cake to be amazing. If someone effs with my cake before it's time to cut/eat it, I will lose it.

2. People being on time.

3. Waitstaff/bartenders being nice to my guests. I have been to weddings where the staff was grumpy or rude, and it is something guests remember. Luckily, I had the pleasure of attending a non-profit event at my venue a couple months ago, and noted that everyone, from the valet to the doorman to the waitstaff, was SO NICE. YAY!

I will be a bridezilla about

RSVPs - If people don't want to respond in a timely fashion or want to bring non-invited guests then your not coming and i don't care. Period.

My hair- I am comfortable doing or fixing my own make-up if need be but I am am completely useless with hair.

The bridal party being in the correct places at the correct times- I really really love my bridal party, I would do anything for them but there are quit a few who are a bit scatterbrained and have a very fluid concept of time.

1) Oh yes, being on time! I am hoping everyone will be able to follow the timeline so we aren't held up anywhere.

2) Also my makeup - I am worried about that because my face has been extra oily the past year or so. Plus a lot of makeup doesn't stay for a long period of time. I am getting my trial in 2 weeks, so hopefully it works out well.

3) Drama - I want to avoid it all as much as possible. We are inviting some people who clash. Too bad! If they don't want to come, they don't have to. I just hope they don't RSVP yes and then not show up the day of - we would be out of a lot of money if that happened!!

I'm a bit of a worrier, so I definitely have had some Bridezilla moments already... These are my top 3!

1. My Dress. I wasn't originally going to go with strapless b/c I was worried how it would stay up...But, I bought a strapless gown, so alterations need to be on point. I pick up my dress Sunday, so I'm hoping to start alterations pretty early (March/April) to give myself plenty of time and to reduce the stress.

2. Vendors being on time. ESP my photographer and officiant. I follow up with all my vendors every month or two even though I'm still 9 months out. Whoops! They're going to be hearing from me A LOT. No being late, folks!

3. Music- DJ's are one of the most important things in my book! Better be good!

1. Fh to be there

2. Me to be there

3. Our boys to be there

That's all I need.