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Question... What should I do

Rhonda, on June 11, 2012 at 3:32 PM Posted in Planning 0 5

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Ok ladies I have my moh as my cousin, my bridesmaids as follows my niece, my soon to be sister-in-law my cousin, Shmar's daughter and my niece. My sis was replaced with my sis in law because she did not like the dress I chose and she had been giving me the most trouble/attitude with making this a smooth and enjoyable time. After a while I told her ok she can be a moh but she won't have a guy to walk with, since we only planned for four groomsmen and one bm. Once again due to our relationship or lack thereof and not being on the same page all the time, I'm feeling like not having her in the wedding as a moh or bridesmaid but maybe a coordinator.

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Latest activity by Genevieve, on June 11, 2012 at 6:36 PM

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Linda E: Fairy Godmother · on June 11, 2012 at 3:38 PM
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How badly will she be p***ed off if you tell her that you would rather her not be in the WP? Perhaps she could do a reading instead?
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Rhonda · on June 11, 2012 at 4:46 PM
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Well she has had an attitude throughout the entire wedding planning. So I really was thinking get rid of the headache. When it came up before that she was not going to be in the bridal party but she could be the one that coordinates the procession, she declined and said she don't have to be in t he weddiing.
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EdubbsWife™ · on June 11, 2012 at 5:18 PM
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Ok, so here is some frank advice. Do not have anyone in your wedding who is causing drama. Your wedding day will be hectic enough without other people being "extra" and detracting from the day you have planned. I also say the wedding is about you and your husband and the people that support you... not the people you support... they should be in the audience IF they get to be in the room at all.

Edubb and my bridal party was super fantastic! They handled everything. They had all kinds of personal stuff (parents died, surgeries, big life stuff) that they either down played or didn't even tell us about because they wanted to stand up with us and knew we would be trying to support them. That's the kind of folks you want around you on your wedding day!
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Iris · on June 11, 2012 at 5:58 PM
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I agree with ^. Anyone who wants to be in your wedding needs to not cause drama. My younger sis has caused alot of problems in the past year (see my recent rant) & she denoted herself & I stuck with that. I got B*tched at by ladies of another forum for creating drama with her, but I'll be damned if I'm gonna let a 20yr brat ruin my wedding mood.
If you want her in the wedding bad enough, find some sort of position for her but keep it simple, perhaps a female usher or something. If she refuses, dont stress about it. If she wants to create drama, the only on missing out is her.
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Genevieve · on June 11, 2012 at 6:36 PM
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I would steer far away from anyone in a role of "coordinator" who is not 100% supportive. Since that role is someone you really depend on.

If she said she didn't need to be the wedding, take that as an open invite to gracefully remove her from the wedding party. She's still bride's sis and sits with family. But that's pretty much it.
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