Is it mandatory to serve alcohol?

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I was just about to ask

View Quoted Comment I was trying to figure out if there would be a ton of backlash if I didn’t serve alcohol. I thought that perhaps people would be supportive of the bride and grooms preferences. I wouldn’t mind serving it, but I’m really worried about certain people’s behavior. We have about seven people who aren’t good drunks and will probably cause a scene if they were to attend. I don’t want to spend my wedding night fighting with anyone. I really wanted to know if people would hate on the fact I wanted to go dry, apparently they will. I asked on another website and that one was more supportive about it. So, maybe it’s just the users?

I think it is fine to not have alcohol. I have been to many weddings that have and have not. It all just depends on the family, type of people there. If I was a close friend and knew that neither you or any of your family drinks I wouldn't expect alcohol.

View Quoted Comment Thanks, Bridgett.

View Quoted Comment Sorry, I didn’t see this! My “aunt” is a Gourmet Chef and a Caterer. She basically told me that she’ll be doing it for me. Lol. So, that is going to be covered. It’s not going to be at my house. My family owns a bunch of cabins and they have a big barn that they use for events.

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I love both of these! We are having alcohol, but it was heavily debated as neither of our families drink, but ourselves and some of our friends do. My thing is if someone is that up in arms over not serving alcohol I probably don't need them at the wedding or as a friend.

View Quoted Comment I was considering having it anyway and just trying to monitor as best as we could. However, the spite of some of these people is astonishing. Seriously, you would get up and leave and be offended if you don’t get to drink? That’s just shameful. People were nice enough to invite you, but you aren’t nice enough to get over not having a glass of wine? I guess I’ll be able to weed out these people when I put that it’s a dry wedding. Lmao.

If you are just there to drink you’re there for the wrong reasons. - What I had one girl tell me.

Can someone explain what people *do* at dry weddings? At weddings I like to let loose and have a good time, which involves drinking alcohol. A short dinner with no alcohol is fine, I've done that plenty, but for 3+ hours?

And no, I don't just go to weddings to drink. But receptions are to celebrate and party, which, yes, includes drinking alcohol. So yeah, if I were your friend and it wasn't too far, I'd come to the ceremony, eat dinner, and leave.

View Quoted Comment My friends and I have had New Year’s Day parties that lasted from 8-9:00 to 3:00. All we did was eat and play the Wii and board games. My family has big bonfires and Halloween and Christmas and Memorial Day parties without any alcohol and they go just fine and usually last all day and well into the night. Really, we only serve alcohol on July Fourth and it’s just basic beers. People have fun in different ways. Not everyone needs to drink to loosen up. Most of my people are extremely outgoing and loud anyway.

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It baffles me. I also still dance and have a good time at weddings without alcohol. Maybe I'm a unicorn, but it can totally be done.

I know I’m in the teeny minority, but my fiancé, our families, and I don’t drink, so we didn’t even consider serving alcohol. You are the bride and groom, so it is totally your choice—just like everything else in your wedding! 😊

Don't invite annoying people? Don't invite those who aren't adults?

Have a consumption bar and you are all set!

Oh Lord. Short answer, yes.

I would rather people say “I just dont want alcohol “ and leave it as that. the reasoning not to have alcohol really sounds like grasping at straws No need to ask when it isn’t a option for you .

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Some things never change around here.

Unless there is a strong religious reason as to why you’re not serving alcohol then I think you should provide some. We are having a dry wedding because we are from a religion where drinking is prohibited and all of our guests are also from the same religion. We are also getting married in the church.

No, alcohol isn't mandatory at a wedding. However, a dry wedding won't have that celebratory feel and probably won't be looked back at as one of the more fun ones. A dry wedding is better suited for a cake and punch reception and short. Most people will leave early. We went back and forth on the alcohol issue quite a bit while planning our own wedding. In the end we decided on open bar. It really was the best decision and we had a few alcoholics in attendance. It didn't make sense to not host all our guests because of problem with a few.

This is happening at your home??? What a nightmare, I hope your homeowners insurance is up to date and you increase the liability insurance. You are now responsible for anything bad happening.

You will get dogged big time for even THINKING about not serving alcohol. I personally didn't mind whether the weddings I've attended in the past served alcohol or not. But it is a major issue on this website if you don't serve alcohol. I say it's your wedding and do what you want.

View Quoted Comment It’s truly sad how bitter some of these girls are about it. I don’t put too much thought into their opinions. Gotta remind yourself that they are probably from different classes and social circles. I got more positive and supportive messages from other media and personal accounts from friends and family.