Is it mandatory to serve alcohol?

Only serve beer and wine, if you're worried about cost do a consumption bar, and hire a bartender so they can cut off drunk guests and make sure underage guests aren't drinking. You absolutely need alcohol at your wedding.

I've been to ONE dry wedding. We showed up and had no idea there would be no alcohol. We left early. Now I hope that any invitation I receive for a dry wedding is honest about it so I can RSVP accordingly. I mean hey, anyone whose having no alcohol might as well put it on the invitation (or at least the wedding website), right?

View Quoted Comment Agree to disagree. 🙂

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It sounds like you have made up your mind. People have given you great advice. If you want someone to validate your poor hosting, ask your family and friends.

The bottom line is, people like to have a glass of wine or another drink at celebratory events. You should serve it if you want to host properly.

View Quoted Comment I already answered the question about inviting them. One of them is the father of the Ring Bearer and the kid loves my fiancé so I can’t not invite him. The reason most of them are coming is because they are related to people I really want to be there. Unfortunately, people can be spiteful and I don’t want to hear about it like with what happened with my cousin when she left some people out.

Ok missed that part when I read it.... like others said you seem to have made your mind up so hopefully it all works out for you and people have fun

A good bartender will keep people from getting too drunk. At the same time, not providing alcohol does not guarantee no one will drink, someone who really wants to get drunk will find a way. A bartender can at least cut people off and watch them. We had mixed drinks, beer, and wine served all night and only 1 person got drunk. A good bartender will do their job.

View Quoted Comment Why are you being so nasty about it? I’m simply giving the details for wondering whether or not their would be a point. If I was expecting about 1/4 of the people to drink I wouldn’t have a problem serving them. The money isn’t an issue. I just don’t like wasting money. You don’t get wealthy by spending on things that are unnecessary. With only a few people drinking and the few that are “wine people” being the DD of their families I want to know the reasoning for bothering with having people keep an eye on the idiots. Whether you want to insult me for my choices or not it really doesn’t matter, because you’re not anyone I plan on pleasing.

I don’t have any friends or family members who observe a religion so strict, they do not consume alcohol and would have a wedding without it so if I go to a wedding, I expect alcohol. And if it’s not there, i know it’s because the bride and groom have decided to be cheap or attempt regulate everyone’s drinking. I would leave as soon as I knew there was no drinking. If that was before the ceremony started, I’d leave. Treat adults like adults. Sorry, I am an adult and even when I’m DD, I’d have a glass of wine with dinner.

• A responsible, paid bartender will know when to cut people off and who to serve and who not to serve.
• it sounds like you don’t respect nor like a lot of your family members. They’re “annoying,” “she’s an issue,” etc. so I’m not sure why you invited them. I didn’t invite two entire families from my side because I have no respect for them.
• if they truly act like this, a dry wedding will not stop those who want to get drunk. They’ll just bring a flask.
• those driving home should have the option of enjoying a glass of wine or a beer with their meal.

View Quoted Comment Kinda redundant. If anyone can get drunk if they want to how is a good bartender going to stop them?

View Quoted Comment It’s actually not because I also said a bartender can cut them off. Water down their drinks, or just flat out tell them no. That’s their job. If you don’t have the alcohol there, that doesn’t stop people from bringing their own. Or leaving to go to a bar and coming back. At least with a bartender, there’s someone monitoring and controlling the situation.

View Quoted Comment Actually you have no idea. 😂😂 thank you for the laugh though!

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If you are providing alcohol people won't need to find it somewhere else, therefore a bartender will cut them off. If you don't provide alcohol people will find it somewhere else and no one will regulate them.

Make sense?

I’m just going to let you people know since this seems to be the main concern. NO ONE would make a liquor run a) because the ones who would be overly drinking can’t afford it most of the time which is why they splurge b) the location is thirty minutes away from a liquor store as it’s a dry county. I also just spoke with a few of the family members and their reaction was “no ones going to care.” And one pointed out it’ll just get rid of the unwanted people sooner.

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My pleasure, thank you as well!

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If people know you're going to have a dry wedding they'll bring alcohol from the beginning.

Your family is wrong. People will care. You asked a question, people are giving you advice but it does sound like you made up your mind before you asked.

View Quoted Comment Read my other comments before you restate things. I explained things already. 😒

View Quoted Comment No one knows my family like my family.

View Quoted Comment Why did you post this if you’re going to argue with every single person who gives you their opinion.

OK Anna, you do you, boo. Just trying to help you have the best wedding possible and treat your guests well. That's all we can do.

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OK so then why did you ask us in the first place?

Are you looking for validation or did you just want to start drama or what?