Is it mandatory to serve alcohol?

So this is at your home? do you have a caterer?

View Quoted Comment You don't need alcohol to be a good host. Good grief.

View Quoted Comment Wow, “unwanted people”.

Honestly you seem to have made up your mind. I echo other people who have posted, why even bother asking a question when you know the answer you want to hear already? People have been honest with you, but you seem to know what you want already so just do that and let the cards fall where they may.

I will just say this though. My cousin had a cash bar 3 yrs ago or so and everyone STILL talks about how rude that was. But they never say anything to his or his wife’s face of course, just gossip behind their backs as families do. And that was a cash bar, I can’t imagine the level of gossip in my family if it was a dry wedding entirely (mind you, they never told this couple anything to their face). So keep in mind just because people tell you one thing to your face doesn’t mean they actually feel that way.

I sincerely hope you enjoy the rest of your planning process and your wedding with “unwanted people”.

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry you feel it is nasty. The people who have given advice that is contradictory to what you wanted to hear are trying to help you from your family and friends being disappointed when you aren't providing something they expect at a celebratory event. People will still have a glass of wine even if they are DD, or they could have arranged other transportation. There is really no way for you to know, so not sure why you would err on the side of not providing it...

View Quoted Comment None of our friends or family drink and we definitely do not drink. No one will miss it. All of our family members and friends that are married had dry weddings as well and everyone enjoyed celebrating with the couple. None of our guests want or expect alcohol. We don't want or need it!

View Quoted Comment Alcohol is expected at celebratory gatherings that involve adults outside of certain religions/cultures (LDS etc.) It has been for centuries. There is really no other good reason to not provide this to your guests whom you are hosting. People expect alcohol & people like alcohol.

View Quoted Comment Yes it does. H and I love to entertain. We frequently host friends over for dinner, dinner parties and group events. I would never invite someone into my home and say, “sorry, we have no alcohol here but look at all this food I made!”

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Do you think that's the norm or the exception, though? I don't think your situation is the same as OP's.

YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE THIS PERSON AT YOUR WEDDING. Period. Why would you even consider it?
You asked a question about alcohol and it was answered. You might not have gotten the replies you wanted, but you got honest replies. This has nothing to do with alcohol and everything to do with an abusive person being invited to your wedding. I totally understand your concerns regarding this person but they should not be at your wedding, no matter who it upsets.

So is the concern really alcohol or this person (or people, cause I just realized you said ONE of the people) who, under the influence can get pretty abusive. If so he should NOT BE INVITED at all. I would not have him at my wedding, even if I wasn't serving alcohol. Would you consider serving alcohol, or beer or wine, if those "few" people were removed from your guest list?

You didn't need to give anyone specific details of the situation. None of their business. Obviously they all need alcohol to have a good party. Have the wedding you and your spouse want. Happy wedding planning! It's okay to have unpopular opinions.

This doesn't answer my question.

Why did you ask the question if you had already made up your mind?

And yes, in many situations I care more about alcohol than my family. Alcohol helps with the social anxiety, alcohol helps with being around a whole bunch of people I don't know, alcohol helps with the awkward family questions but most of all alcohol is nice to have when celebrating. Without it I'll get bored, anxious, and uncomfortable so yes I'll leave early. Does that make me a terrible person? Not at all.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. I’m done talking with these people. I have given my reasons more than once and they can’t get over their own need to have alcohol at every function to see my concerns. Some of them seem to have poor reading comprehension and don’t understand why I still invited people I don’t like. I don’t see how people can’t have an event without alcohol. I’ve been to many parties, weddings, etc where no alcohol was served and no one threw a fit about it. It seems that some people care more about alcohol than the people giving it to them. I hope that your wedding turns out perfect. You sound like you have a great support system. Good luck!!!

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This happens every time..

View Quoted Comment Hahahahaha YES!!!

Why did you ask if you werent going to listen?

Every time someone asks about this on here, people get prissy and offended at the thought of an alcohol free wedding.
Your guests are there for YOU. The day is about YOU. You shouldn't feel obligated to spend a ton of money on something that doesn't matter to you and your fiance.
I would put something on the wedding website or invitations so people know what to expect. I've been to several alcohol free weddings, and literally nobody cares. If someone is going to throw a fit about alcohol, they don't deserve to be invited anyway.

At least have some beer and wine.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. It seems people are more worried about drinking than the couples preferences. They act like people are trash if they aren’t getting free alcohol from them. I discussed this with my fiancé and he said no to the alcohol. So, if people don’t like it they are more than welcome to not attend. It’ll save us money on food and give more for us to buy stuff for decorations and the house. Lol

So why ask . Like what were you trying to figure out?