I was all sorts of excited and then BAM...

She may feel uncomfortable trying it on if it is too small & might be hoping to lose some weight. If you tell her you're worried it won't fit she might get upset but I think if you call and say how excited you are to see it and how you're so happy and can't wait to see it on her please please please (imagine excited/giddy jumping up and down) lol then maybe she'll get over it and put it on for you. I think in this type of situation it is all about the delivery.

That's how I was all giddy when she called and told me and I said well when you get home send me a picture I can't wait to see it... and then she said that. But at the same token if it doesn't fit I think we should know now if she has to get a newer size that took 4 months to come in, we don't have 4 months :/

I'm sure it fits... but I really just want to see it!!

I agree with Vicky. Just let her know that it is like Christmas to you and you want to see how beautiful she looks in it! Then if it doesn't fit right, you and she have plenty of time to get it fixed

She also needs to try it on in case it needs alterations! Can you sway her that way, I would love to see it on you, I'm so excited, and we want to make sure it doesn't need any alterations. If they went by her measurements, the boobs may fit, but everything else may be HUGE! They typically order from your largest measurement, and then take in to fit everywhere else.

She's your MOH right? So you have to be somewhat close. Is it something where you take the excited approach, but if she doesn't go for it, then ask her if there is something up? My sister is my MOH, and a plus size girl, and if this was us, I would have to ask her if there was something going on. I wouldn't want her to be uncomfortable in any way. Hopefully, you can talk to her and explain to her your excitement, without offending her. Also, maybe it's something you can do in person, if that would make it easier!?!

Watts, her boobs aren't her biggest feature, but I don't know how it's going to fall on her.... either. It's a sweet heart which everyone says is flattering but on me my boobs looks awful! Yes she is my cousin so we are closer.

I know she has always battled with her weight issues, and sadly she squeezes into smaller size clothes just to say she is in a size smaller.

I just want to make sure she likes it and feels good in it and if we need to order the next size up we can have have time. I mean I really do want to see it on her, but I also want to make sure she looks good and is comfortable. I don't want to wait until it's a month out from the wedding and there is nothing we can do, if that makes sense.

I live 2.5 hours from her (which is why I thought it was strange she didn't tell me she came to pick it up) I have to go home next month for some wedding stuff so I can stop in then.

Maybe, I have no idea, like I don't want to come off as mean saying it.

I much rather know now while we can do something and try to get a new dress in, then wait because if it's tight now she isn't going to want to be in and she isn't going to feel good in her dress.

I mean is it just me or is it strange she didn't try it on at the store, and she doesn't want to show me until October 12??

Tell her that all gowns need alterations and she needs to try it on to see what needs altered.

And plain up ask her if there is a reason why she hasn't tried it on. Does she honestly not like it? I was horrified to try on my BM for FH's sisters wedding (with good reason it in fact, DID NOT fit, and a week before the wedding isn't even close to being done altered) but I still put that puppy on. She has to wear it some time.

Halloween i remember your dress and yes i understand your feeling for that! Im not sure why she wont when I asked her when we went shopping she said she liked it maybe now that she has one in her size, she doesnt but yes im sure it will need work down i know at least hemming on the bottom. please excuse any errors I am on my phone.

I'm so sorry. I know it's a touchy and it's always hard to bring up. It's a tough situation because you want her to be 100% comfortable in the dress, but you can't make that happen without her trying it on and getting alterations if needed. Not to mention, what happens if October 12th comes around and it doesn't fit? I'm sorry, I feel like I don't know what to do, but just want you to know I feel bad for you and am hoping it all works out!

I totally get the "Christmas morning" excitement aspect of it, but more than that you really need to know how it fits for the sake of possible alterations. I get she may be uncomfortable, but not trying it on until the day of the wedding won't make you anymore comfortable.

Girlfriend is going to have to get out of her feelings on this one and just try it on. Even if she doesn't want pics at least let you see her in person. You want your girls to look a certain way and if it's not hitting the mark you need time to regroup. I say she's being just a little selfish on this one.

Thanks ladies i just wish she would show me like i said i dont care if it coesnt fit right i want to make sure she is comfy and likes it ... and its a touchy subject and i dont want to sound mean or even force her but seriously if it needs work lets find out now the sooner the better.