I got side eye today.

But for real...I get that the general order of things is wonky…but it’s what worked out best for everyone and I didn’t plan it.

Is it really that big of a deal?

I wouldn't think anything of it. Plus, since when is it her business? Rude.

No

Your coworker should mind her own business...

I would have just said, "Why do you care? You aren't invite."

Who cares what she thinks?

Everyone feels entitled to weigh in on weddings. It is sooo very tiresome. Laugh it off now or you'll go bonkers.

She can shove off. I wish more people spaced their events out. Travelling a lot in a small amount of time can be a burden.

Pssht, she is clearly just jealous that she isn't included! You know deep down everyone wants to be involved in Bachelorette shenanigans. You should bring her a phallic shaped party favor afterwards to really get a reaction out of her!

I didn't know there was a specific timing for these kinds of things. I don't know when my shower/bachelorette will be or if I'm even having one, but if so, it'll be whenever my FSILs and I are available.

Who does she think she is giving you the "side-eye"? Tell her to come to WW.

I work with a lot of people (mostly ladies...social worker hazard) who like to have their opinions out there.. I don't normally discuss wedding stuffs here for that reason, learned my lesson today..close the office door -___-

But it made me all worried that it was somehow a big deal so I wanted to run it by you all

No way. You guys have to do what is best for the group. As long as the BM's agreed, who cares! Its not your coworker's wedding/wedding events....

My shower is Aug, bachelorette is Sept, and wedding Oct. I wouldn't say wonky, but myself and most of my BM's are out of state. I wanted to spread them out a bit. We actually had dates set awhile ago. I work weekends alot at my job(s), so planning way ahead is necessary for me.

People have their showers 3 months ahead all of the time?? What a weirdo.

Lol Kinsey I totally would if 6/26 wasn't my last day here

Is there a rule when you have to have your bachelorette and shower? I'm doing mine when its convenient for everyone invited.

You're engaged. You're having a bachelorette party before you get married. When you're having it doesn't matter. And it REALLY shouldn't matter to a random coworker who isn't invited. Rude.

I just had my bachelorette party this past Saturday, my side and our friend's shower is on July 12th and FH's side is on August 9th. (we are having two because they are in two different states and people would not be able to travel if we had one combined.) So clearly, I don't care. We did it early because I sat down with my 3 bridesmaids and MOH and there were only 2 dates that we all were free between May and October.

OK you all have made me feel better.. thank you glad to know no crazy wedding rule was being broken here.

I'm so excited to post my BAB for you all !

Ugh. Who cares? People are busy. Do it when it's convenient, not on some made-up schedule.