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Kay, on October 10, 2012 at 3:40 PM Posted in Planning 0 10

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So we are having kids in our wedding our two little girls and my sister and my nephew. There will be no other kdis as all of our guests have older grown children and non of our friends have kids.

I was thinking about asking my babysitter to sit for the evening but after the dinner. I was thinking having them stay for dinner and feed the babysitter, but then asking her to take the four children back to the hotel and entertain them there.

Is it wrong to not have our own children there for the entire reception? My younger daughter is a high fuctioning atistic child, and she is always running around, she doesnt do well in large crowds and always has a ton of energy. My nephew will only be a year old and the other two girls are both 8.

I know my sister and mother would enjoy a couple hours of adult time.

I don't know if its the right thing to do or not to not have our own kids there.

Any ideas?

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Latest activity by Marlena S., on October 10, 2012 at 6:45 PM

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Lucky me · on October 10, 2012 at 3:41 PM
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Sounds ok to me.
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Legacy · on October 10, 2012 at 3:45 PM
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If you trust the sitter and she is able to handle the autistic daughter, I dont see why it's a problem. I dont think you should feel guilty about them not being there. They would have attended the ceremony and a portion of the reception. I think it's totally ok.

I would double check withe the sitter on how comfortable she feels about the arrangement.
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Kay · on October 10, 2012 at 3:49 PM
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She is my regular babysitter so she knows my kids really well and they both love her. Our reception site is 3 hours north but i found out that she is from there and still has family there. So i thought she could earn some extra cash and go home and visit family for the weekend.
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Jen · on October 10, 2012 at 4:47 PM
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I see absolutely no problem with it whatsoever... good idea!
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Pumpkin's Sunshine · on October 10, 2012 at 4:58 PM
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When my brother got married, my sister got a sitter that stayed with the kids through dinner and the first hour of the dance, then took them back to their cabin when they got tired. I don't see a problem with your plan as long as your sister and mother are ok with it.
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Almost Mrs. White · on October 10, 2012 at 5:19 PM
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Sounds like a plan, go for it!
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Jamie Q. · on October 10, 2012 at 5:21 PM
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Talk to your siblings about this but that sounds fine. If you are providing someone who can care for them properly then they should enjoy it! But the parents of the autisitc child may want to find a babysitter themselves or have someone she does well with already you can consider using. But personally, I would love that!
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e · on October 10, 2012 at 5:25 PM
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To each his own I think. Personally I will have ny son there but he loves parties. If I was in your situation I would probably do what you are doing but might have them stay for cake before they went to the hotel so they can share that moment
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MinD · on October 10, 2012 at 5:45 PM
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I think that's a great idea both for you, your sister and the children.
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Marlena S. · on October 10, 2012 at 6:45 PM
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I don't see an issue with it. Talk to your nephew's parents and make sure they don't mind, and to your babysitter so she knows to be free. That's pretty much the only technical aspect of this situation. The children might be okay for a little while, but it gets to be boring most times for them. This is especially a good idea since you said your younger daughter doesn't do well with crowds. Perhaps let them stay for a half hour to an hour after dinner so that they can enjoy the party and then have your babysitter take over?
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