How did you go public???

It's cool to see how so many people have different preferences. Private or public, I like that everyone did what they felt comfortable with and not the expected!

How fun for all of you that had a celebration right after with family and friends!! I'm not sure if mine would have been able to keep it a secret. Bunch of big mouths lol!

FH posted it on Facebook practically the minute it happened. I do not recommend. It caused a shit ton of resentment from m grandmother who learned through Facebook a couple hours before we had the chance to tell her in person. That sucked.

Our families were both in on it and actually threw a surprise engagement party (well, surprise for me) when we got home from the proposal. So since our nearest and dearest knew before I did, we went public the next day!

We gave my grandparents a photo ornament with this message in it from my daughter. They opened it in front of the family so we just had to tell FH family later

I am one of those "share all the things immediately because I'm so excited I can't stand it!!!!!!" sorts of people. H is a "keep it close and only tell the really important ones" sort of person. We called our families and my BFF immediately, and I posted on FB about 2 hours later.

His FB friends (non-mutual ones) found out he'd gotten married when he posted a single picture of us at the reception 6 months later...

FH asked me shortly after midnight on a Friday and I insisted our parents be the first to know. His family is a timezone behind us, so they were still up-- they knew he was proposing that night and waited up for us. I had to wait until the next afternoon to track my parents down and tell them! After that, we called/texted our VIPs and by Sunday we were ready to "go wide." I took the pic that is now my avatar while we were walking the dog that morning and posted it on social media. Our friends lists are small so I wasn't worried about prying eyes or the implied invite.

FH proposed in front of both of our families (this was at his college graduation party, most of my immediate family was present). I very quickly texted my brother, who wasn't present, and some close friends. His stepmom, sister, and best friend's wife posted pictures on Facebook immediately. They didn't ask permission to post them on Facebook, but I'm not mad about it. One of my close friends found out on Facebook before I could text her, but she wasn't mad.

We didn't announce anything on social media until the day we got married. Shocked TF out of everyone who didn't know. We're a bit private when it comes to our relationship, and didn't find it necessary to announce to everyone we were engaged. We told friends/family via text, a phone call, or in person.

This decision also also stemmed from people always asking when are we going to get married every time one of us would post a photo on social media (which was probably only about 4 times a year). It annoyed me so much (and him) and I'm glad we both agreed that we were never going to announce our engagement.

@GymRat girllll I don't know if I would have been able to wait till the day of the wedding lol your photo's were so gorgeous too I bet that made it even more of a shock! Major props!

We've been private about our relationship as well in general. I don't have a picture of us on my facebook, he has one, but I have a few on my instagram. So with all our family and VIP already knowing I'm excited to tell everyone the news! When I post it to facebook I'll practically be screaming SURPRISEEE in real life as I hit the post button LOL

FH asked my mom permission so she knew it was coming. I told her after my birthday dinner (he proposed 3 days before my birthday)

He tried telling his parents and they said "nope" so we bought booze and then told them in real life. They still didn't take it well...

I told most friends over text or when I saw them in person. Nothing fancy, but people were also super mean to me about it, so I think that's why. If I were to do it again though, I'd still keep it private and tell everyone I could face to face. If not, then a phone call.

We "really" got engaged on Christmas Day, after all the craziness died down and we were back home. We literally were angry with each other and I was crying in the kitchen and he hopped down on one knee and asked me. We cried. He then told me to not tell anyone because the NYE party I worked so hard to plan was where he was going to propose, and our friends know about it lol. So we did it all over again, which was fun.

My sister and most of our friends were there, but at the end of the proposal, one of our best friends handed me the phone of his mom on FaceTime! She witnessed the whole thing! I called my parents and they cried saying "we've known for months", and I quickly called his sister and told her, since she was out of the state. I called two of my best friends who couldn't be there and told them as well.

We posted it on social media within 30 minutes of the public engagement. We were too excited.

We we're on our way to visit my mom and sister when he asked, so I told them when we got there of course by presenting my ring! Called Dad on the way up. Told my bff down the street before we left for my mom's. Texted my other best friend on the way up as well. Called fhs parents when we arrived at my mom's! Called grandparents and my aunt I'm close to the next morning, before making a social media post with a ring picture!

I posted this photo with 'So his first cruise ended up being my favorite cruise!' ( it was my 9th cruise)

PS we also told all close family and friends ahead of time.

We were at the beach and called everyone we wanted to know first. Then a day later, I was too excited to wait so I posted a ring picture with the caption, "The question was asked. The answer was 'Yes!'"

@Asta I am no longer friends with those who were mean! It's sad but showed some true colors for sure

My entire family and FH's family and our friends were at our engagement. We announced on social media the next day, since everyone already knew/guesses it would have been that weekend.

@asta thanks, I agree

@mrswrs we were young and I guess a lot of people were caught off guard? I got a lot of "well, a lot can change in three years" when I'd explain we're waiting and "no wonder the divorce rate is so high" and "are you pregnant? That doesn't mean you have to get married"

But here we are 3 years later planning our dream wedding. It was just sad because I was embarrassed to tell people

We told our family in person first, as well as a few close friends. Then we announced it on Facebook.