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Kristina
VIP September 2012

First look Vs. No first look UPDATED

Kristina, on September 7, 2012 at 12:08 PM

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I want a first look with FH. He says no, he says he wants the first time he sees me to be coming up the aisle towards him. Sweet and romantic and all, but I want the pictures!!! LOL..... I want him to be able to wrap his arms around me and hold me tell me I look stunning and not have to be quiet...

I want a first look with FH. He says no, he says he wants the first time he sees me to be coming up the aisle towards him. Sweet and romantic and all, but I want the pictures!!! LOL..... I want him to be able to wrap his arms around me and hold me tell me I look stunning and not have to be quiet because it's not time...... Ladies where do you and your FH stand on this? I know FH is traditional and he hasn't requested much at all in this whole process so I should just shut up and let him have his way since it would be the nice thing to do...... But the more I think about it, I want a moment with he and I. Is it going to be mean to try and convince him into a first look with just he and I and our photographer?

** So, I mentioned the first look to FH and he said he would like it, he never thought about not being able to tell me I'm beautiful of hug and kiss me. He said he would rather hold me and look into my eyes the first time he sees me then do nothing.... YAY!!!

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  • Cyndi K
    Master August 2012
    Cyndi K ·
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    I wanted a first look but DH was against it too. We did the first touch and it was amazing! I'm so glad we did it!

    I tried posting pics but they won't load. For some of the pics we blindfolded him with a pink bandana so that we could hug and kiss.

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  • Ms. A
    Super August 2013
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    I'm for sure doing a first look, but we're not super traditional. It's a special pre-wedding moment, we'll get some great pictures, and it will minimize the picture time after the ceremony. Meaning... we can actually participate in cocktail hour! Woop woop!!!!

    I would just talk to him about it more and explain why you want to do it and figure out why he's against it. There are lots of benefits, but if he truly believes you'll be starting your marriage with a streak of bad luck (or whatever his reasoning is), then maybe a first touch is a better idea. Or maybe skip it all together.

    But seriously, I'm so excited for mine!

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  • Vanessa R.
    VIP February 2014
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    I like the idea of the first touch and that videa is not one to watch at work!!!! totally made me cry and made me think is FH going to cry when i walk down too

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  • Cyndi K
    Master August 2012
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    There are a few pics of our first touch on my FB.

    http://www.facebook.com/#!/media/set/?set=a.4346927428711.180677.1153315120&type=3

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  • Forever (a) Young
    Expert September 2012
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    If he wants to be traditional, let him -- but you could always do a first look where he can't see you, with him blindfolded or just a "first touch."

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  • Michelle
    Master April 2013
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    Were doing first look, we decided to get more time with the photographer it wuld be better that way!

    He said "whatever you want babe" when I asked him, so i guess hes not opposed to it! lol

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  • Ris Future Mrs. Logan
    Super May 2014
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    We haven't talked about that much. I don't think we really care honestly. lol But there are some sweet "First look" pictures without the groom actually seeing you. So maybe you two need to talk with your photographer about it.

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  • MJ
    Master June 2013
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    No first look or touch. we will see each other before because we are having a family breakfast that morning.

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  • Kristina
    VIP September 2012
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    I mentioned it to FH and he totally agrees that a first look is more intimate than waiting...... SO, We get a first look!!! So excited!!!

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  • Sarah
    Super October 2013
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    It depends on if we have 2 photographers. If we have 1, we are doing the first look. If we have 2 and could capture his face and me walking, we will not. I want the first look, he hates the idea Smiley sad

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  • KandyGraham
    Dedicated October 2013
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    I like the first look sans look.. The door is really cute but I espically like Cydney J (Cydney M)'s sneaking up from behind and the peek a boo shot... I think I will go that route except I wont let him see me (devlish grin)

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  • Courtney
    VIP November 2012
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    Just saw your edit! Yay!

    We are doing them too. I know our ceremony will be just as special even though he's seen me before. Your day will be here before you know it. Congrats!

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