FH's view on Wedding Dresses...(also, how do I wow him?)

According to what you wrote, he didn't say he doesn't care what you look like. You're going to wow him no matter what you choose. You're going to be done to the 9s, it's his WEDDING, you will wow him no matter what.

at least you don't have a groom who only loves ballgowns, which you (hypothetically) hate. Get the dress you want and love. The rest will fall into place.

Thanks Paris. I guess on some level I need to relax and your words are a bit reassuring. The problem is that he literally said I could wear a sweatshirt and he could care less and I'd be lucky if he were awake enough to notice (his words, not my paraphrasing--bc 1-we r getting married on his 1 day off of work and 2-all dresses are the same according to him).

I'm just wondering now if I'm the only one whose FH thinks all gowns look exactly the same?

Explained another way you can dress any girl up like a bride and a guy will be wow'ed. Consider his emotional attachment to you, and it's a done deal.

Of course they do. What do (most) guys know about bodices, organza versus satin, rouching, or sweetheart necklines. A dress is a dress is a dress. It's you in that dress that's going to make the dress for him. kwim?

Well, it's not necessarily the best idea if you're having a formal church wedding, but you could always do what I'm doing....

My FH pretty much never notices what I'm wearing. By this point in our relationship, I have no physical characteristics to him, and vice versa (it's a good thing, I swear). He doesn't see me as slightly overweight, with flabby arms and a bit of a tummy, and I don't notice the paunch he gets when he's drinking too much soda and eating too much Little Caesars (ew). So it's hard to make him notice me or my clothes.

So, the wedding dress I chose doesn't have a wow factor. The wedding dress I chose shows MY wow factor! It has a nice ruffled slit up to low to mid thigh on one of the legs, and he has always loved my legs. So on that day, he will see me made up in a beautiful dress, but he also gets a glimpse of the me he's always known, just enough to get his attention!

At least you ladies don't have a groomzilla!!! My FH wanted to follow me inside David Bridals because he is a picky man...I am simple and plain...he is the opposite of me lol...

My advice is the same of Paris whatever you wear you will wow him...mine is like that when it comes to makeup...so yeah you pick the dress of your dreams and he will still stumble over his words lol

Lol thanks ladies lets hope the dress that speaks to me is the same one that makes him "stumble"!

I actually think you have it easy. He's going to absolutely LOVE seeing you in any dress you choose. We'llAlwaysHaveParis said it perfectly.

FH may think all gowns are the same but he doesn't think all women are the same. YOU are the one he chooses! I have no doubt that in your FH's eyes you could upstage the "model" wearing a brown paper bag on your wedding day! My FH says the same thing about gowns, guys just see the way you feel in the gown, not the cut of the skirt.

My FH sees gowns in two categories: the ugly ones, and all the rest. haha and we ALL know what the ugly ones are. I wouldn't fret.

I don't think you will need to outdo anyone. There is just something about when you see someone in a wedding dress when you normally don't. (hence his response to the girl). I am sure he will be just as wow'd with you because by all means I doubt you walk around in a wedding dress all the time

Mine said something to the effect of all strapless dresses are skanky, so I am not wearing strapless, and has mentioned he likes the idea of a sash since it gives him something to match, so I am getting a sash/belt thing in the color of my bridesmaid dresses to put on. other than that, pretty sure he doesn't know/ care about the dress. has mentioned he's curious since I won't let him see it though.

Haha Misty, wouldn't it be kinda fun if we could just wear those gowns every other day? (Actually that would probably get tiring but the thought is fun!).

I'm really glad I posted this bc I needed to see it in a different perspective. I may not be the best at decision making but overall the dress is about how I feel and you're right, I'm much luckier than I realized. Thanks all of u for the boost of confidence and rational thinking.