FH involvement level

FH wanted a small elopement and I wanted the big wedding so the planning is mainly up to me. Occasionally he'll give me an idea or two but that's about it

FH has been pretty involved. We chose the venue/met with all the vendors together and he got a Pinterest to look at tux/groomsmen ideas which I think is super cute. He doesn't seem to care much about the decor but I do run things past him and occasionally he'll chime in with a request. Mostly he lets me do my own thing with the DIY stuff though, and his mom is helping a lot. I'm happy that he shows interest...a coworker's fiance isn't even going to look at the venues with her, and I would find that really upsetting.

@WWLynnie- That cracked me up because my FH surprisingly cared about the color of the linens. HaHa! I wanted ivory and he wanted white. I let him have his white. He said ivory looked dirty. I love all of his input!

My FH is very hands on. The initial research with vendors is my area since I have more flexibility and prefer to narrow down then we pick together who to interview or visit etc.

Very involved. I think some days he enjoys the process more than me! Haha. Like others have said, for things that arent as interesting I offer a couple choices and we move on.

Mine just goes with the flow and when I ask him things for his opinions and choices he gives them to me (most of the time) but he says he's really happy with everything I've gotten done and planned so far and is excited. The only thing he 100% wanted was a steak for dinner, other than that he's good lol

It's not "my day/my wedding" it's OUR day and OUR wedding. We are planning this thing side by side. Our venue has been his dream venue for years. I really want to do stations for dinner, so we are. Our cake is coming from his beloved hometown bakery. The photographers are a husband and wife team whose work I fell in love with online.

I do a lion's share of the initial information gathering, but that's the nature of our relationship overall. We often refer to me going into "research mode" when there is something I want to find out more about; when I bought my first new car a couple of years ago, I spent probably 4-5 hours a day for a week or so reading everything I could find about my options and then I went out and bought what seemed like the best option. My partner, on the other hand, will spend months and months or even years lightly tossing a potential purchase or idea around in his head.

Thanks everyone for the input! I talked it over with FH and since we are still in the very early stages of planning, he's just getting used to the idea of all these plans! He agreed he would like to be involved and go to all the appointments with me and make decisions alongside. He just wants me to research and keep him in the loop overall but not about each detail. It's fun!

Fh is pretty hands off. He is telling me to do whatever I want. I still talk to him about everything. He usually has funny reactions to things I didn't think he'd care about (like flowers). Our venue is actually where he works and our venue contact is constantly wanting to change the way we're going to do things and he comes home like "guess what Mary wants to do to our fucking wedding now" and it's really funny.

FH has said "I don't care do what you want" but then shares his opinions when the time actually comes to decide! He's not very detail oriented, so as long as I take care of the small stuff he's been happy to help with the big stuff!

Also, he's planned an amazing HM. So I'm stoked for that!

Same. Not that involved lol. He helped pick the colors and wedding cake and we agreed on the venue. That's it! Lol.

It's been all me, he just wants to when and where.

Mostly it's me. He wants to help with the cake (I told him I was thinking a naked cake and he said that I was ridiculous for wanting to buy a half finished cake lol) and he wants to meet with the photographer. Other than that he helps by making sure I stay in our budget, I'm a spender and he is a saver

FH wants me to talk to him about stuff, and he gives me opinions and then let's me make the call because he doesn't want all the details.

My husband only really helped with the cake and the venue but that was it. He was really positive tho with any choices i made. I loved it because I was in complete control lol

My FH says he only needs to know where/when to show up and what to wear, but I run ideas by him anyway. I like having the control but I'm also really bad at making decisions so it's nice to have a second opinion.

I run final decisions by him, and gave him the DJ and honeymoon to book. That's about it!

FH is taking car of the tux, the cake flavor, and the DJ. Everything else is, if that is what you want baby than I am happy. Honestly it doesn't bother me too much. However we do have a while to go so it may bother me later.

FH is deployed. So slim to none.

We haven't made many concrete plans, but when he isn't exhausted from work and school, he's surprisingly interested! I love it. He may be acting a little more interested just to make me feel good, but I appreciate it. It feels like we're a team taking this on together