FH involvement level

I asked FH what he wanted to be involved in. Tuxes and cake lol. Priorities. I give him 1 or 2 choices and then he picks

Nothing. We went to visit vendors together and made decisions together on those. I did the original research and set up all the appointments and will be doing everything else basically. It's just not his thing. When I ask I get "I want what you want"

That sounds about the same for mine, she's taking care of her attire and she keeps asking if we will have the mini cupcakes, other then that she doesn't care to know details, like reviews and things like that but she cares about the price. That she does ask about, lol.

He was involved in food/cake, alcohol, tuxedos and I got him to spend 15 minutes in Bed Bath & Beyond to register for pillows. He went to our florist sample appointment and he chose our invitation suite. That's about it right now.

He's involved in just about everything. He doesn't want me to go on and on about all the options but he wants to be involved in the final say. If I had to do all of the decision making we'd be eloping. It's not my day. It's our day.

FH not involved in much. He did have opinions about the venue (this is the one!) and cake (no, looks like it's from the 1980's) but everything else has really been all me. Very stressful but fun at the same time!

My FH is involved in everything except researching for vendors and setting up appointments, but we go together to all the appointments and we share opinion, pros and cons. he's amazing

I look everything up i give a couple of options. He chooses from that. If he had to look up things we would never be done planning.

@ErinWood it's exactly the same with my fiancé. He really wants a big celebration, but I would be fine with just eloping. So far we have comprised and decided on a smaller wedding (60 guests max) with music & dancing but not too formal. Still hammering out details. He wants to be involved in all the decision making, even decor/flowers.

-0 he is leaving everything up to me and it's so frustrating . I wish we would just help with the big items , I can handle the details.

He's very involved and if I need him to take over, he will without hesitation. I tend to do more of the finer details but that's because I'm totally type A. We both realized pretty early on that we're planning the wedding for each other (meaning with the other primarily in mind) which made the process a whole lot easier. We have friends who still complain about the lack of help from their spouse during the wedding planning and thankfully that won't be us.

He chose to focus on the cake and tuxes. He also helped with the menu but couldn't care about anything else.

FH here isn't doing much legwork or research but once all the research is done, I present him with options and we choose from there.

This has been the case for everything from invites to STDs to venue to the smallest of details.

I just asked what he cared about and wanted to be involved with in the decision making, and didn't bother him about stuff I knew he didn't care about - like the color of the linens

He was super involved with the venue, guest list, food and booze, band, transportation, and favors!

He told me yesterday "I just don't understand weddings". We were talking about hotel blocks and shuttles and he couldn't wrap his head around why those were necessary things. So, he's not the most involved. He keeps telling me that he wants it to be my day and whatever I want is fine with him. I wish he was a little more opinionated, but he means well.

Mine is super involved. I told him he would have to be, left to my own devices I'd be picking an elopement package in Vegas and done.

FH has been involved with everything but my dress.

FH says it's your day get what you want... BUT then he chose the restaurant for our reception, had a must have flavor for the cake, picked the invitations, is picking the guys attire, said he doesn't want to do a first look because he wants to keep that traditional. He clearly has more opinions than he was leading on lol

My FH and I have planned everything together! He's involved 100%, I told him how lucky I was to have a fiance that actually wanted to help as much as he does. I found the venue and he came home from work one day and said I found our Dj, and photographer. I looked both up and that both have great reviews and decent prices so I agreed right away. We found the caterer, cake and planning all details together. We're both in 100%

FH has been semi-involved insofar as, I pick out something do all the research and show him pictures/reviews and price. After that, the only thing he's running point on is the groomsmen attire. He's gotten some brownie points for fielding family calls and what not so I can't complain