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Devoted October 2018

Bridal party dates while getting ready?!

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Audrey, on October 19, 2018 at 1:56 AM

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So my big day is tomorrow!!! Yay!!! But here’s an issue I ran into this evening.

“What is my girlfriend supposed to do for two hours while we get ready?” This was asked by a GM. Now, to me, I feel like not my problem. He actually asked if she could hang out with me and the bridal party. (I do know the girl, and she is super sweet, but we’re not close. The only reason she’s coming is because it’s his girlfriend).

I told them what there was to do around town and I guess they (I think mostly she) wanted to hear none of it.

Out of ten bridal party dates, she has been the only one giving issues. And just this day, the day before, not anything prior.

My mom says that this isnt mine or FH’s problem. I so happen to agree.

So WW girls! thoughts?

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Mrs.V2Be · on October 19, 2018 at 12:50 PM
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Not your problem. End of story.
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PurdyAikey · on October 19, 2018 at 12:50 PM
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When I was in a Bridal Party (that I and FH traveled to and he was not in the bridal party), he literally slept in, went and got lunch (had i known I would have had him get me lunch too lol off topic), and stayed in the hotel room the rest of the time. I don't think it is your issue to entertain guests on the day of the wedding! Seriously, almost everyone has smart phones, so she can figure it out her herself!
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Lauren · on October 19, 2018 at 12:51 PM
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Not your problem! My FH and I went to his best friend's wedding out of state a few years ago, and he spent that morning golfing and I just stayed back in the hotel room. If she's an adult, she can figure it out lol.
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Courtney · on October 19, 2018 at 12:55 PM
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I feel like she could easily just come later on... have her stay her hotel or something like that. I agree, not your problem... I understand their concern but she can come later on in my opinion...
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Summerbride77 · on October 19, 2018 at 11:29 PM
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That's not your problem. You've given tips for what to do around town and she knows when the wedding starts. You're responsibility ends there.
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Megan · on October 19, 2018 at 11:58 PM
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When I’ve been a plus one to a wedding party I’ve either helped set up, or met up with other groomsmen girlfriends (whether I knew them or not, we arranged it) and went to lunch. Or one time I just stayed in the hotel room because I was hungover as hell and needed to recover before the wedding lol. I HATE being out somewhere by myself and I’ve figured it out plenty of times. This girl needs to get over it.
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Cheryl&rock · on October 20, 2018 at 7:22 PM
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LMBO....Snarky....I like that better than Salty...
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Phelicia · on October 20, 2018 at 8:01 PM
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Most definitely not your issue. You have done your part and made suggestions.
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Judith · on October 20, 2018 at 10:15 PM
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I never considered going to meals or doing photos " getting ready." Those I completely understand. My FI/husband's pet peeve has been having to show up, dressed and groomed, at 1pm, where somebody fusses with colored pocket squares and cummerbunds in colors, and with bow ties, which he did when getting dressed, 5 min in his room, then parents of groom come by , then often some of the guys are drinking, then only after 2-3 hours, they go to start photos at 3 or 4 before a 5 or 6pm wedding. So I never have figured the " getting ready" 2-3 hour part necessary, and he hates them. Most of his NYC area friends do this. My family and states where I lived, GM may share a meal and go to photos, but no sitting around while fiddling with accessories, and who cannot tie a tie, and no guys drinking before the wedding. Meals and photos I quite understand. Mandatory hanging out for guys , no. Or women. So I guess we are talking different things.
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