Bridal party dates while getting ready?!

She's a grown up. She can entertain herself.

Our wedding was at a hotel venue that was an hour or more away from everyone in our bridal party. My husband and I paid for the bridal party members to stay in our hotel rooms, but we let them know significant others will have to figure it out themselves. The girl's with boyfriends had no problem with this and had their boyfriends make their own arrangements. Of course a groomsmen "forgot" we said that and reached out to us 2 days before that wedding assuming his girlfriend could just stay with me. I like her and all but there would have been no where for her to sleep and it's not fair for me to take shower time and getting ready space away from my bridesmaids for the day of. So we told this to the groomsmen and it ended up that she was able to stay with an aunt that lived by and then the day of, once she was ready, she came to the hotel and hung out with the other significant others (she got to meet them at the rehearsal dinner) at the bar until the ceremony began.

So anyway, my advice is to recommend that she hangs out somewhere with the other dates.

Not your problem! She's being ridiculous in my opinion. Too bad, either be a date or don't come at all if she can't find something to do around town or just stay at where ever they're staying, get ready then go to the wedding?

Not your problem, she is an adult, she can chill by a hotel pool or go to a local coffee shop for a few hours while they get ready. Happy wedding day!!!!!!

Soooo not your problem! She is an adult...she needs to act like it!

When my husband and I were dating he was in a couple weddings and I just hung out in the hotel room til it was time to take the shuttle to the ceremony. Is is the most exciting thing in the world? Probably not, but I never would have dreamed of having him ask for me to hang out with the bride - even if I knew her!

Don't worry about it - to reiterate PPs, it's totally not your problem. She can be an adult and hang out for a bit..

I was coming here to say that I would love nothing more than a hotel room to myself for a few hours. Order room service and a movie, or go chill by the pool if the weather is nice. She can get a blowout or her nails done. You've done your part by offering suggestions, this is not your problem.

Are there other GM with dates not in the BP? If they know each other maybe they can hang out together.

100% Not your problem. I have been to several weddings where I don't have anything to during the day (or even during part of the wedding) while my FH is off doing groomsman duties for his friend. I entertain myself on my phone or go do something. She is an adult. She can find something to do in the meantime without her FH. You absolutely should not include her with your bridal party.

She's a grown up. She'll figure it out. She doesn't need a babysitter.

Omg. My own freaking maid of honor asked if her BF can ride on the bridal party bus because "he won't know anyone else at the wedding". If grown ass adults cant find something to do for a few hours, it's seriously the last thing we as brides should be worrying about. LOL

It isn't your problem. These are grown ups. They can figure it out. I wouldn't want a random person in my room while I'm getting ready for my wedding. She can entertain herself.

It's not your problem. The significant other always figures out something to do, they are a grown up. I was in a wedding last year, we were getting ready from 9 AM - 3 PM for a 3 PM ceremony. My fiance occupied himself all day and came at 3 PM.

This happened to us, too.

One of our groomsmen wanted his girlfriend to stay in the GROOMSMEN SUITE while they got ready! She said she didn't know anyone or where else to go. My husband and I didn't like the idea, but my husband didn't want to cause any issues with this groomsmen and have him throw a hissy on his wedding day, so he sucked it up. His best man and other groomsmen were supposed to talk to him and tell him that is not a good idea and they don't feel comfortable with her staying in there with them, BUT they never said anything to him!

So, on our wedding day, the girlfriend of one of our groomsmen hogged up one of the two rooms in the groomsmen suite and wouldn't allow anyone else in there. My husband was pissed! There was a bunch of big, burley men forced to stay in one tiny room and they were all agitated and sweating because of it.

Don't let the same thing happen to you!

As the date of a groomsman/best man at both of the only two weddings I've been to:

PLEASE find a way to include her.

At the first wedding, FH was Best man, and i hung around with the groomsman, and those boys didn't know how to put on their cufflinks. Thank goodness i was there to help them with their cufflinks and pocket squares, or they would have looked a mess! The photographers still got excellent pictures of just the boys getting ready, i was just a behind the scenes actor haha. (what would men do without us?) I now have a super sweet picture of me putting on FH's cufflinks that i cherish so much!

At the second wedding, the bride invited me to hang with her and the bridal party. I was able to run and get them drinks, bring the gift to the groom, and do more behind the scenes help! I also got to enjoy spending time with the girls which was so nice! i didn't get a picture of FH's cuff links that time, but i did get this shot of me in my comfy clothes after he was ready:

getting ready

Obviously you don't HAVE TO accommodate her, but she obviously wants to be there and find a way to be a part of your big day! I hope that you find some way to include her, even if you don't want her around you!

Tell the GM to have her hang out and do a lunch, or something, with the other GM's dates. I think it would be fun for them to hang out together and get to know each other while their dates are getting ready.

Overall, not your circus, not your monkeys, NOT your problem. You have enough to think about. Just go enjoy your day! Congratulations!!!!! Have SO MUCH fun!