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Audrey
Devoted October 2018

Bridal party dates while getting ready?!

Audrey, on October 19, 2018 at 1:56 AM Posted in Planning 0 49
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So my big day is tomorrow!!! Yay!!! But here’s an issue I ran into this evening.

“What is my girlfriend supposed to do for two hours while we get ready?” This was asked by a GM. Now, to me, I feel like not my problem. He actually asked if she could hang out with me and the bridal party. (I do know the girl, and she is super sweet, but we’re not close. The only reason she’s coming is because it’s his girlfriend).

I told them what there was to do around town and I guess they (I think mostly she) wanted to hear none of it.

Out of ten bridal party dates, she has been the only one giving issues. And just this day, the day before, not anything prior.

My mom says that this isnt mine or FH’s problem. I so happen to agree.

So WW girls! thoughts?

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Latest activity by Judith, on October 20, 2018 at 10:15 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Absolutely not your problem. She's an adult, she can figure out how to entertain herself for a couple of hours.

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  • c
    Super May 2019
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    It’s not your problem. They can figure out what to do on their own.
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    Definitely not your problem. She can figure out what to do with herself for a couple of hours.
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  • J
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    Judith ·
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    I' be never figured out why so many weddings on here people set 2-3 hours for men and 4-7 for women. It is different if showing up 1¼ hour before for 45 minutes of pictures. But I have never lived with any guy who could not be fully ready, grooming and perfectly dressed, in 1/2 hour after getting out of the shower. If these guys are not showering together, what do they need to be with other groomsmen or groom for 2 hours to get ready?
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  • Amanda
    Expert August 2019
    Amanda ·
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    I wouldn’t stress out over it. It’s nice you provided some suggestions! You definitely don’t have to invite her to get ready with you and your bridal party. She will be okay for two hours Smiley smile
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  • Kayla
    September 2020
    Kayla ·
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    She will live or won’t come. If I were Her it would be even more awkward to sit in a corner with you while you get ready! Tell her sit in her car and play games on her phone lol.
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  • Jackiee
    Beginner December 2020
    Jackiee ·
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    She can suck it up for a few hours. At the end of the day it’s your time with your close family and friends. Let her be, and just advise your GM you don’t want any negative energy if she’s going to be bugging or looking bored/ disturbed. She does not have to be there and ruin your party.
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    Super April 2019
    Valerie ·
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    Not your problem. I've been to plenty of weddings where my FH has been in it and I wasn't. I've never asked to go hang out with the bride. At my wedding some of the groomsmen dates will likely come hang out with me and the bridesmaids for a bit - BUT we all went to college together and know each other well so it isn't just a random person.

    She's an adult - she should be able to entertain herself for like 2 hours

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    Just Said Yes March 2019
    Nichole ·
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    Some guys like to hang out with the groom and some do activities! Like golfing, hair cuts, etc. no need to be snarky.
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    Just Said Yes March 2019
    Nichole ·
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    Tell her to go to breakfast and a local salon to get a blowout or something. That’s what I’ve done. Pamper myself! And relax.
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  • Lynn
    Dedicated August 2020
    Lynn ·
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    If they are out of town guests she can hang out in her hotel until it’s wedding time. She’s not your responsibility.
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  • WED18
    July 1993
    WED18 ·
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    I think it’s sweet of the GM to be concerned for his date, but no it’s not your problem. However I hope you are allowing your BP to sit with their SO’s at dinner because this highlights why separating them is not “just for dinner”.

    @Judith, the guys will be going to breakfast, hanging out together, and doing photos before my daughter’s wedding.

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    Just Said Yes October 2018
    Kailey ·
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    Wedding day twin! Definitely not your problem. If she doesn't want to hear your suggestions, then that's all on her. I'm personally not running into this problem because most of our wedding party is local, and if they aren't, their SO's are coming down with their parents who are also invited to the wedding. I would never invite someone like that to get ready with me. You're going to look back on the pictures of the day wonder why she was in them. Don't stress about it, shes an adult and she'll figure it out. It's great weather tomorrow here in STL area, hope your day is just as beautiful!
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  • Chariece & Sterling
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    Chariece & Sterling ·
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    My fiance was in a wedding and I did not know anyone besides the groom. I was an ott guest as well. When he went to the bachelor party I went out to get me some food .We where in tourist area so I goggled what was nearby. The day of the wedding when he had to report early I relaxed and pampered myself.
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  • Mackenzie
    Dedicated November 2018
    Mackenzie ·
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    I cannot believe that was even asked!! She is an adult and can figure out what to do herself. She shouldn’t need a babysitter and if she does that is a problem!
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  • Kimberly
    Devoted September 2019
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    My fiancé has been in several weddings that I haven’t.. I helped doc’s set everything up or ran errands for bride.
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    Devoted October 2019
    Melodie ·
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    Not your problem. She’s a grown woman. Smiley smile
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  • Gen
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    Gen ·
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    This isn’t your problem at all. My FH’s best man is deliberately not bringing his girlfriend to our wedding because she doesn’t want to be bored while he’s doing best man duties and off with FH. She’s choosing to come knowing the situation! Either be ok alone for a couple hours or don’t attend!
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    Devoted September 2018
    Mel ·
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    Not your problem and it would be awkward to have her there. I agree with others, there’s tons of things she can do.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    Ugh can’t edit on mobile and just realized I was really unclear with pronoun usage lol. By “she” in “she’s choosing to come knowing the situation” I meant your groomsman’s girlfriend
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