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Alternatives to Bridal Shower...

booyaka5, on May 11, 2013 at 10:52 AM Posted in Planning 0 4

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I'm in a wedding party & the bride's friends are giving me the impression.. they're not really her friends - shitty time to find this out - but it happens - except the bride hasn't figured it out yet.. hopefully we can keep it this way.

I'm helping plan a shower & bachelorette. so far 1 person has r.s.v.p.'d to only half the bachelorette events - bummer (wine tour/tasting, dinner, comedy club, martini bar... fine, i understand limitations, that's why we planned it like this, so ppl could come out when they could (over the course of the same day) and spend what they felt they could afford.).

the bachelorette were e-vites (first e-vite idea was quickly veto'd, second was revised invite and third reminder no response), the shower invites were snail mail.. I don't want to bother these ppl to see if they're coming since I already have for the bachelorette, & aren't. but they're also not r.s.v.p.ing to the shower... I assume they're not coming?

How do I plan, suggestions for alternatives?

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Latest activity by booyaka5, on May 11, 2013 at 12:39 PM

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Barbara · on May 11, 2013 at 11:19 AM
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Skip it all and just take the bride for a spa day/pampering.
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Just Reenski · on May 11, 2013 at 11:22 AM
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Wow, kinda sucks that people can't even at least get BACK to you.

What about the other bridesmaids, are they good to go for these events? I want to suggest not doing so much for the bachelorette -- even though you are asking people to only come to what they can, it can seem overwhelming -- perhaps cut it down to the dinner and comedy club, anything beyond than can be a bonus.

For the shower, are there non-friends that *are* going, like family members? I kinda prefer smaller showers, the important thing is to have the love and support of the people that matter most.

I certainly hope these friends truly do have too many things going on to be able to attend, not just ignoring her just because they feel like it. Best of luck!
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booyaka5 · on May 11, 2013 at 12:36 PM
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Yep, I am finding it kind of rude that they can't at least say thanks for the invite I won't be able to make it.

The other bridesmaid is planning on attending all of the events, the MOH is working on the day of my shower, but she is throwing a shower in June for family. When I first asked the bride how many people were going to be invited to the shower, she told me 100!! EEE I explained why that wasn't a good idea for a number of reasons and split it into two groups (which only ended up being about 20 ppl a group). The shower invites for June haven't gone out yet, so I'm not sure what our guest list looks like for numbers that way.

The only person that has RSVP is the groom's mom, and I assume the bride's mom is coming...
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booyaka5 · on May 11, 2013 at 12:39 PM
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For the bach. I don't think it's that its overwhelming, they're just not interested
The one person that is coming will be at the winery and dinner and the wedding party will spend the rest of the evening with her and try to have fun.
(She's had 2 other ppl drop out of her wedding party as well). this is a sad news story.

I just wish I could have some closure from them - hey we are busy, I'm acknowledging your invite but can't make it. It's that we've gone as far as trying different dates to be accommodating and they still aren't interested.

We'll keep our fingers crossed that the June shower will work out better. Thanks for the ideas!
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