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MayBride2017!
Beginner May 2017

Dinner wedding- can we do first dance?

MayBride2017!, on November 7, 2016 at 7:46 PM Posted in Planning 0 43

Hi there! I am here because another wedding forum completely upset me and left me feeling insecure about such a special day! I am hoping to find better support here. This is a 2nd wedding for me, 1st for my fiance. He is from Germany, customs there are different and much smaller affairs. Were both in our mid 30's. It will be small, <50 people. However, we sitll want to make it fun and magical- since his immediate family are coming from overseas, and we are incredibly excited to share the joy! The pieces are all coming together, the venue is gorgeous and we are keeping it simple in a large dining room, with a piano/ musician area, sweetheart table, and round tables. There is no space for a actual dance floor. So- we have decided since we want a 1st dance, we always love watching them, and there is only 1 afterall, we would like to do one. I just want to make sure our guests done think its rude. I took a quick consensus from some guests, they promise me that we definitely should dance!

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Latest activity by Kathleen Smith, on November 9, 2016 at 11:48 PM
  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    I think it's fine

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  • BeachDreams
    Master May 2017
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    I don't see a problem with this plan.

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  • FutureMrsL
    Super September 2017
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    Sounds ok to me!

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  • MayBride2017!
    Beginner May 2017
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    To add: we are hiring a great solo guitarist/singer, he has music/speakers, a microphone for toasts. Were just not allowed an amp, therefor they do not put down a dance floor b/c not enough space. My uncle would like to sing and play piano (he is very good). It will be mostly low key, fun, joyful, romantic. The venue is rustic meets castle, everyone will either be staying for the weekend, or at least the evening.

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  • melanie
    Master August 2017
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    I think it's okay

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
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    It not like you're dancing the whole night and no one else is allowed to. It's your first dance as husband and wife! I think it's totally fine Smiley smile

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  • O&L
    VIP September 2016
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    The only problem I see here is logistic. Where will you guys be dancing?

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  • BeachDreams
    Master May 2017
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    I think having a reception without dancing changes the vibe of the reception. But I still dont see a problem with your plan.

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  • mlw
    Master December 2016
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    I am having a small wedding (under 20) at outside Chapel. We get the entire area for only an hr and a half. So, we do our ceremony,get some pictures while we have fairly good daylight. And then they have a Pavilion of sorts where there will be a hot cocoa bar, and Polaroid "photo booth". Before we leave, as we meet up with the rest of our "party" we will share one, quick, slow 1st dance before we leave for dinner. That's the only dancing we have, and I don't think anyone will mind. I would think you're friends and family will feel the same and understand the circumstances. I say, don't sweat it.

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  • Katie B to S
    Super January 2017
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    I don't have a problem with it. If you have the space you could do a dance like my friend did:

    First dance

    Father daughter--halfway through they invited fathers and daughters to join

    Mother son-- halfway through mothers and sons invited to joi

    And a last dance where all couples were invited to dance.

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  • Celia Milton
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    I think it's just fine!

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  • kimmyinjapan
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    No, I think it's fine

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  • Flying
    Master May 2017
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    I think it's fine. You aren't chaining your guests to their chairs and telling them they absolutely cannot dance.

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  • BecomingMrsOz
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    It's totally fine.

    BTW, welcome to wedding wire. Hopefully, you'll find this forum to be more helpful. Make sure you read the sticky thread if you want to steer clear of controversial topics https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/welcome-new-users-faq-lingo-and-guidelines/736e1073af1a0860.html.

    You're also more likely to get responses if you change your avatar.

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
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    Definitely dance! It's not like you're banning the other guests from dancing.

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  • Jacquelyn
    Savvy July 2017
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    I would consider your first dance as a symbolic moment instead of "dancing". I do not think it is rude at all! What a beautiful, intimate moment to share with your close family and friends.

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  • Sara
    Master April 2017
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    Sounds fine to me

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  • Samtoine2017
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    I don't see any problem with doing just a first dance. It sounds romantic Smiley smile

    And welcome to WW (Wedding Wire)!

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  • Kara
    Super May 2017
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    I was at a wedding where only the bride and groom danced! I didn't think it was rude at all

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  • MAMW
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    I think it sounds lovely! I also love the first dance and think it would be nice to see.

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