Did you pick out your ring?

Because it was a big purchase and something that I have to wear for the rest of my life (and I'm notoriously picky and opinionated about these things), FH and I went ring shopping together a few times. It was a great experience, especially since rings I loved online, I did not care for on my finger. After a few trips, I picked the setting and the diamond that I wanted. He held on to it for like 3 months before popping the question. Knowing about the ring didn't make the proposal any less special, but those months of knowing it was in our apartment somewhere were torture haha.

I wasn't there when he picked out and purchased my ring but I had sent enough hints that he knew exactly what I wanted if that counts lol

Like many others here, we went shopping together and I would tell him what I liked while we were there. I would have loved anything that he bought for me, but I think he would've got me something completely different from my style if we didn't shop together first (a solitaire vs. an antique ring).

I had really wanted an antique ring, but didn't think it would be possible since we wanted to shop at local jewelers. But, as we were ready to leave the last one we went to, the jeweler pulled out a tarnished, slightly damaged, empty antique setting that he recently bought from an estate sale, and I fell in love with it. FH had thought about buying a different ring, but said my face lit up when I saw the antique setting, and later worked with the jeweler to pick out the stones (an antique center stone and small diamond and sapphire accents around it).

While I hoped that I would get that ring, I really didn't know until he actually proposed. It was more beautiful than I even imagined, and really my style.

I helped design my ring with my FI. I gave him several options that I liked and then he found one he thought would be perfect so we designed it together.

I know several women who literally told the man they were with what ring they wanted. I did not have a hand in picking any of my rings. He originally got me a gold ring with emeralds and diamonds as my wedding ring, and was going to use his class ring for my engagement ring. Our friend talked him out of that and helped him find a traditional diamond ring set for me. To be honest, I don't love the diamond rings as much as the gold one he picked out. It means more to me that he saw it and thought it would be perfect for me. There is no reason he should feel bad about having your help picking a ring you will be wearing for the rest of your life. Everyone has their own style, and you are no exception, and he could be nervous that he might pick the wrong thing. You are not alone in helping pick your ring, its not what happened for me, but I know plenty who have done it.