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A. L.
Master July 2017

Did you go dress shopping with your mom?

A. L., on September 2, 2016 at 11:34 AM

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My mom is coming into town next weekend to go dress shopping with me. The last time I went dress shopping with her was in 1998, for my prom. Thankfully, my friend has volunteered to go with us, so at least we can't revert back into the same roles we had last time we shopped together. For those who...

My mom is coming into town next weekend to go dress shopping with me. The last time I went dress shopping with her was in 1998, for my prom.

Thankfully, my friend has volunteered to go with us, so at least we can't revert back into the same roles we had last time we shopped together.

For those who went shopping with their moms, was it a nightmare?

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    Yes- I would never dream of not dress shopping with my mom! She's one of my best friends now that we're adults. We talk every other day or so and frequently go shopping together. She also would have been terribly hurt if I did not include her!

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    Yes, I went with my mom. Overall, we had a good time. It was a little frustrating that after our first day out, she and I had different favorite dresses. I felt like she was really pushing her favorite, and I kept seeing other dresses I liked more. Fortunately, three months passed before we went back out with the intention of purchasing, and she had looked through all the pictures we took from the first time and it turned out that while my opinion on my favorite didn't waver, hers did. She came to realize that when we went back out to look at dresses, she was comparing everything to my favorite, not hers. I ended up getting that dress.

    The only other point of contention was about veils. I really don't like them. I was open to trying them on, but I was so uncomfortable in them. It took me a very long time to convince her it was okay if I did not want a veil. I think she's still waiting for me to change my mind.

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  • Leah
    VIP July 2017
    Leah ·
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    I went with my mom, sister, and grandmas. It wasn't bad but my style is definitely not theirs so I'm not sure at first they liked the dress I chose but it started growing on them. Nobody said they didn't like it, so that was good lol. All the pictures she took were so unflattering of me, thanks mom.

    The next day we went to some stores to look for MOB dresses since they were in town. She tried on double the amount of dresses I did, lol.

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  • Sandy
    Expert May 2017
    Sandy ·
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    My mom's pretty great but she gets tired quickly and has always hated shopping. So I mostly shopped without her (with the exception of one store). I narrowed it down to a few dresses-with one being my ultimate favourite-and brought her to see. Was easier for her that way and I still got to have her opinion/nice moment together.

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  • Shy-Bull
    VIP March 2017
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    I wouldn't have it any other way than my mom going with me!!!

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  • Nancy
    VIP January 2017
    Nancy ·
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    I went by myself b/c my mom lives in another state. I emailed her a picture after I bought the dress.

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  • nolalishak
    Master June 2017
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    No, i went with my only close friend that lives in my city. My fam is (luckily) out of town. I can't handle the opinions and crying lol

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  • MzKiwi
    Super June 2017
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    I'm going with my mom aunt and matron of honor next month. Im thinking of including my FMIL haven't decided yet . I didn't want too many opinions.

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  • R
    Expert November 2016
    Rebecca ·
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    It wasn't for me but I never has been for me.

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  • K
    Savvy September 2017
    Kathryn ·
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    My mom and I had a terrible time shopping together when I was growing up, lots of arguments over size and style. I was open with her about what I wanted and we overall agreed and we have a few things we both really hate (like that see through lace bodice thing). She shared opinions, she didn't like a couple of things and didn't hide it but let me decide. It went SO much better than I was worried about! Nothing like when I was 15 lol

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  • SoonToBeSummers
    Super May 2017
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    My mom was great. She walked with me and my consultant to pick our dresses to try on. She jumped up and helped me with the bra(without me even asking which is HUGE for us) and she helped me with all the dresses since the bridal salon was understaffed that day and our consultant was running around crazy.

    My mom doesn't show her emotions so she didn't cry or anything but she was great. Plus she was super honest about how the dresses looked on me.

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  • RiceAndRoses
    VIP October 2016
    RiceAndRoses ·
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    It wasn't a nightmare---me and my mom don't always see eight-to-eye and there has been tension for every wedding-related event, but it was nice to have her there and say she liked the dress and give her input. We have never shopped well together either, but I would have regretted not having her there and surprisingly, she liked a lot of the same styles as me.

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  • FutureMrsDjTimmy
    Super April 2017
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    I found the dress that I said yes to with my mother, my moh (fh cousin) and both of his parents. Of course they throw a veil on you for the up sale even though I knew I wasn't going with a veil. My mom is sitting there, looking at me with this horrific face. I said to her what is wrong with you? You look like you just smelled dog shit?! Yes, that's right in the middle of dress shopping. She looks at me and goes, oh, I don't like the veil... I was like damn woman, that's an easy fix isn't it? Then we laughed. Hard. And still reference dog shit face when discussing wedding stuff. Point of the story I had a blast with both moms and have no regrets whatsoever

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  • prisandbigfootsbuddy
    Super March 2017
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    I loved having my mom's opinion. I went shopping without her and could not decide!

    I think it helped that my mom and I shared the same opinion on what dress worked best for me. We had a great time shopping, and I traveled just so that we could do it together!

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  • LynZLeigh
    VIP June 2017
    LynZLeigh ·
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    I'm worried because my mom is tiny and we have had disagreements about my struggles with weight loss. She means well, but doesn't get it all the way. It's actually giving me a good bit of anxiety, and I think if she knew that, it would break her heart. :-(

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  • Michelle
    Dedicated March 2017
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    I went shopping with my mom, FMIL, and BM's. My mom and I often have very different tastes... To help with this I found a boutique with very strict rules (no touching dresses, no pictures until you choose the dress, etc) and got to do a 1 on 1 with my consultant a few weeks before my appointment. My consultant was 100% my advocate and the strict rules helped so much!!

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  • StokedToBeASaucier
    Master September 2017
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    Nope, it was a really nice experience. My mom and I are really close. That being said, she can get on my nerves too, pretty easily. I brought my best-friend too. We had a great time. My mom surprisingly cried her eyes out for two dresses. We all went out to brunch afterwards. It was just a great memory.

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  • Jenn2015
    Dedicated May 2017
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    I went with my mom on my second visit! I tried on several dresses, and love that she gave honest opinions. I went with my MOH the first time, and she said I looked good in every dress I tried! Not what I wanted! I needed someone to be blunt! She picked a beautiful dress, so I'm glad she came with me!

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  • ShortStack
    VIP June 2017
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    I went first with my sister who is my MOH. After the bridal consultant at that shop suggested I look at more I scheduled an appointment elsewhere and invited my mom. We don't have similar tastes, so it was interesting. She doesn't really like my dress, but I knew it was the dress when I saw it. We brought my neice who will be one of our flower girls, so it was more fun to have her pick out and try on a dress lol

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