Did you ever wish you were eloping instead?

Honestly, yes.

I originally wanted to do a laid back destination wedding, or an elopement somewhere fun and intimate. FH had dreams of a big family event, and we compromised on a small-ish city wedding followed by a beachy honeymoon. Don't get me wrong, I am so excited for our wedding, but I really don't enjoy the demands of the wedding industry and have often wished we would have just eloped.

My wedding guest list is so small I really just want to elope but I would feel so bad about doing it now that everyone is expecting us to have a wedding. I think my parents really want to put on a wedding too so I would hate to disappoint them.

I really did. It all turned out fine and I don't regret it, but I don't think I would've regretted eloping either.

Yes, definitely. I'm excited about our wedding, but it's really more for our families than it is for us. Our original plan was to get married on the beach with only close family and a few friends. Now we're inviting about 150 to our more traditional ceremony/reception.

Eloping was out of the question for us. We did consider a family only ceremony followed by a larger reception. Seriously discussed it, including dates and venues 3 TIMES!!! So now, we're taking on the insane task of planning the wedding in 3.5 months.

Quite a few times. My wedding was still great, but I should have just planned to elope from the start.

Oh yeah! It would be so simple!

To be honest almost every day. Its so much money and I cant take everyone opinions anymore. We had thought about at one point going to the court house and doing when we had more money but it has worked out mostly

We thought about it and we are going to do it!!! 8 people, in a city park, with great views, and out to lunch later this April. Wedding planning put a magnifying glass on a lot of insecurities: my lack of family (literally no blood family) and money mainly.

We we will have a nice dinner and stay in a hotel with a view and keep it mainly focused on us. I’ll still have a dress, hair and makeup done and we kept our photographer. We feel good about it, i think it will be perfect. The lunch has a private room so we will do first dance and such there.

Guilty, I still beg him to elope. He wants the big wedding, I don't.

For a little bit. But really want family that can be there to join us. We are kind of getting both. DW in Florida with close family and friends that can make the journey.

Never. I only wish the wedding was just smaller. Not 180 to 170 people.

Yes! We actually called our parents one day and told them we were cancelling the wedding and eloping. My mother talked us down a bit and convinced us to take the weekend to think about it. We looked into elopement options, reevaluated what we had planned for our wedding, and thought about what got us to the point of wanting to cancel. If we had found affordable elopement options (we were already to the point that not only would we not be getting our deposits back but some of our contracts would require a percentage of the total payment) we probably would have. FH's family had taken all the joy out of the wedding for us, but we decided to go forward and just refuse to talk about wedding planning. It was working nicely, until last night. FMIL and FH are not currently speaking because of who we chose to invite.

Yep, frequently.

Yes.

It would be cheaper. Maybe more fun too if it was a destination kind of thing. I don't know. I really want all my family with me to celebrate and have made many deposits, so there is no turning back now!

View Quoted Comment The opinions are the worst part of wedding planning!! I had to vent to my friends about it last night. My mom is stressing me about things we can discuss 2 weeks prior. Meanwhile I'm trying to focus on big things since we're planning the whole thing in about 3 months. My family also seems to forget there's a whole other family to consider.

So. So. So. Guilty!

Oooooh yeah, for the last 6 months i wish we would have just eloped. We are happy with how things are going with the wedding, but there were a few trying times where i really wanted to give up and just get married.

Yesssss
My family is full of drama (honestly it’s just my mom) and I think it would be so romantic to “run away” and get married
However his family is huge and very close, so they’d probably kill us if we did. But a girl can dream right?

Not elope persay, more like get married at court, but still have my big wedding. As soon as I was engaged I wanted to be married, but when it came down to it, I knew if I just went to the courthouse I wouldn't go through the trouble of planning a wedding.