Hello everyone! This is my dream dress, it's $2,400...
I picked it out after my great-grandmother told me she WANTED to buy my dress and to go pick out what I wanted and let her know how much it was. She never insinuated that there was a cap, didn't give me a price range and is pretty comfortable, financially.
However, after finding this lovely treasure after searching for months, I get back to her and my excitement quickly diminished into sadness (it gets worse) when she said "actually, I'll send you half the cost of the dress." so, at this point I'm still trying to keep my hopes up so I say "ok, thats works!" a couple months later (at this point I still hadn't received any money from her nor did she bring up the dress after she said she would pay for half) I get a text from the bridal boutique saying that my dream dress is on sale!!!! YAY!! or so I thought... I call my grandmother and let her know that its on sale and remind her that it has to be custom made so the sooner the better so that alterations can be made if necessary, she did not like that. She responded by getting very upset with me, asking "what exactly do (I) expect from (her)" utterly confused, I responded by saying "I'm sorry if I upset you. I thought that we had already agreed on all this before hand?" she angrily says to me "Listen, I will send you $1,000 and you can put that towards your dress and don't ask me for anymore." I say "ok, sounds good." but is it really all good...?! I think not.
Fast forward to over a year later (wedding was in less than two months at this point) and I have received NO money from her and there has been NO mention of the dress. My fiancé and I were in the middle of moving (she knows this) and she calls me out of the blue to say that she is going to send me $1,000. I, thinking this was just a generous house warming gift say of thats so nice, you don't have to do that, thank you, yada yada... this would be pretty normal for her because last time we moved she bought us some furniture that came out to be well over $1,000 and she likes to give lavish and expensive gifts.
This is where things get kinda wonky...
She sends me an email with a screenshot from her Capital One app on her iPad that states that she has sent me a bill pay in the amount of $600 and she writes in the e-mail "another $400 in a couple days..." my fiancé and I both thought it seemed like a ridiculously inefficient way to send money but hey, who cares it's so nice of her to send it at all and she's an old lady so maybe that just seemed like the best way in her mind. I receive the check for $600 about two weeks later so I text her to let her know I got it like she asked, everything was fine, I was like thanks love you, etc.. and she reciprocated the sentiment.
Fast forward another few weeks, second check hasn't come yet and having assumed that the money was in my and my finances opinion quite obviously a house warming gift, we spent just about all of the $600 on house stuff.
Sitting on one of our new chairs in the living room, the thought pops into my head "was that money supposed to be the money for my dress?" as you can imagine a sheer panic immediately came over me and I said to my fiancé "I think that money was supposed to be for my dress!" he thought that seemed just as ludicrous as I thought it was but also knew that it may very well be the case.
That day I decided to start looking for a new dress under $400 hoping that she would still be sending that amount at some point before the wedding but after scrolling through all the used and discount dress sites, I got so upset that I just went into the bathroom and cried instead.
I have no idea how to address this issue with her or if I even should.
Which brings me to my final question: does anyone have any good ideas on where to find affordable wedding dresses?
Besides, Poshmark, BHLDN, StillWhite, Reformation
