Did anyone break up before your wedding?

Uggh-- if you only invited her b/c she was dating him, then the appropriate thing for her to do would be to stay home. Why would she even want to still come and see him??

That sucks. I don't know what you would do in that situation... I guess just make sure they understand that you need to know by x date.

One of our friends is on the rocks with his girlfriend. We don't know her that well so she obviously wouldn't come if they break up. I'm just (selfishly) hoping that they'll stay together for the next 3 weeks because we're sending the invitations out next week and it's already been addressed to both of them.

I realized something weird was happening when she sent back the RSVP, then went silent after I reminded them both about the hotel block rate expiring last week. Found out today that they are on the rocks, and that our friend (the guy in the couple) is still going to come (as he has been good friends with FH for a long time) but he isn't sure if she would be coming with him or not/coming at all.

I've asked her to "beat around the bush" about the hotel room block and if she managed to take care of their room... haven't heard anything back yet.

ETA: I told our guy friend that we need to know soon... if she doesn't respond, I'll probably give her one last shot next week to let me know.

That's a tough one. If she's his plus one, then I think you should speak to him again about whether she's coming or not. Regardless of their issues, they have to make a decision.

Going through a similar situation. They are most likely splitting up later so I addressed the save the date to my friend only and told her I would check in for invite time. As of now, we are still counting him unless we hear otherwise.

Since I started planning my wedding THREE couples we intended to invite have broken up... one couple we we were only really friends with one of them so he accepted and she declined, another married couple has separated and they told us since only one of them is a blood relative he will be the one who attends and she will decline and the third couple are still on good terms and agreed they will both come and it's fine to seat them together.

@D&J, yes she is his plus one and @Barbara, she's only invited because he's a good friend of my FH. We wouldn't know her if it weren't for that. He told me to ask her what she's doing... so, that kind of puts me in a weird spot, but like I said, I am trying to "beat around the bush" in case she just says, "Hey, here's the deal, I'm not coming." LOL.

I had a married couple who separated right after the save the dates went out (we know her but not so much him), and she is now seeing someone else. She wanted her new boyfriend on the invitation. We just put "and guest" and left it at that...

It hasn't happened yet but I wouldn't be surprised if it did. The bad part is that this couple we are really good friends with both of them.

When my ex and I broke up, we had already RSVP'd to my friends' wedding. They just seated us at separate tables with people we knew. I'm surprised he actually went, since he only knew those two people through me. Oh well.

@winnipegwriter, I'd totally do that, but she literally wouldn't know anyone else, haha! I've only met her twice myself, and she only knows her current/ex bf and his friends which I think would just be weird because they' will all be sitting so close to each other, haha!

Sheesh! These two really have the screws to you since your wedding is a month away. I hope they give you the final answer soon!

Why is he making this your problem? He should know whether they're still together, and if yes, whether she still plans to go. Doesn't he realize you're the bride and you have enough things to worry about?!?!

Seriously, I'd ask her flat out-- no beating around the bush-- *then* you'll just get a "no"!

I would just forget about her in all honesty.If they don't know if they aren't together then they aren't together.If they get together again by the wedding I'd make her stay at home anyways.

I initially thought you and your FH broke up. Phew. I have no advice really, I'm just relieved I was wrong

One of my mom's friends who we invited RSVPed for her and her boyfriend, so we included them both in our final count, They broke up about a week and a half before our wedding, so we paid for both meals. Neither of them ended up coming (supposedly my mom's friend got lost driving there).

I would just give him an ultimatum like "You have till this date to answer or I will take her off the list."

FH's boss was dating his ex-wife (yep, chew on that one) when we got contact info. They broke up just before invites went out so I just whited out her name on the envelope (they were stamped already, I wasn't wasting a stamp. Lol) and sent it. Now they're back together and he's bringing her to the wedding. What a hawt mess.

Oh God @Mizangi! Lol. Thank you @Barbara, I don't know why this is now my job to find out about their weird relationship, haha! He told me to ask her but said "sorry about that." LOL... whatever. This is somewhat in character for him anyway. No excuse, but I wasn't expecting it to be much different.

I haven't heard from her, so when the deadline passes on Saturday, I'll probably go ahead and just blatantly ask. It's just kind of awkward, "hey, I know you guys aren't doing that well, but I just wanted to know if I could still expect you at the wedding..." Uh, that sounds kind of wrong to me..

What about "Hey, so, are you still coming to the wedding?" Yeah, still sounds weird. Man, people suck! LOL. WTH.

My brother and his fiance broke up in February and she was one of my bridesmaids. We still had plenty of time so my cousin offered to fill in her spot (Which im super excited about!). Unfortunately they had a wedding to go to the next month.