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Just Said Yes April 2019

Destination wedding... Wedding party or no??

Bobbi, on March 4, 2018 at 8:45 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8
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We are planning on having our wedding in Arizona, an intimate affair with 40 people max. My issue is, should I have a wedding party or not?! We have talked about just having my best friend and his best friend be our witnesses because if you are getting an invite to Arizona, you're basically the wedding party.

I don't want 25-30 people standing up there with us, siblings, friends and neices/ nephews and the. Have 10 people watching the ceremony.

I want everyone to wear similar colors since we will be having photos taken with all of our guests. Also, we will be having a reception in our home state with approx. 300 guests in attendance. I want the group that joined us in AZ to be able to stand out.

I guess I just don't know how to word it so that everyone we invite to AZ knows they are "wedding party" or do I just pick a few people to stand up with me.

Ahhhhhhh!! Help!

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Latest activity by Ashley, on March 5, 2018 at 1:35 PM
  • Allie
    Expert April 2019
    Allie ·
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    Hi, we are having a DW in mexico next year. We are only inviting immediately family (around 20 people) and don't plan on having a bridal party. I plan on having my sister shake out my train and take my flowers for me when we get down the aisle and then go back to her seat. We also don't plan on having our mother's ushered down the aisle, toasts during the reception, etc. We are a bit nontraditional =]


    Having your bffs as your only "bridal party" sounds like a great idea, I totally get it.

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    Just Said Yes April 2019
    Bobbi ·
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    My mom was upset when she found out I didn't want my neices and nephews in the wedding party, but once we add up mine and his we are at 8 kids aged 1-17. I like the idea of them having coordinating outfits but just my FH and I at the altar.

    My 3 best friends I'm inviting might just be the way to go!

    We are non-traditional as well, our parents will have to agree to disagree!

    Thank you and congratulations!!
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  • The Nuptials
    VIP July 2018
    The Nuptials ·
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    I think a DW plus a wedding party is a ton of money to ask of people (the BP). We are having a local wedding with no BP and we are doing pictures with friends before the ceremony. Friends have also graciously offered to throw us bach parties and a shower. I think they are just happy to not be out of a bunch of money, but are still up for a celebration!

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    Just Said Yes April 2019
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    Yeah, I totally get that it is a lot financially. Our friends have said they would like to throw showers and bach parties as well.

    If we included them in on the BP we would pay for their stay while in AZ. We have rented an Air BnB that sleeps 10 and we would invite her to stay with us for free.
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    Just Said Yes April 2019
    Bobbi ·
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    Them** not her**
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  • plangalCG
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    I felt the same, I have a maid of honor, sort of and I don’t even know if I’ll have her walk down the aisle. I’ve basically told her to wear whatever she wants, and aside from being my best friend, I don’t expect her to do anything! I’m only having about 20-25 guests and the event coordinator was talking about all the people who could walk down the aisle and I’m like—that’s my whole wedding!
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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    We had a DW with only a dozen people present. We had two attendants.

    Forty people would be way too many for your wedding party. And trying to insist that everyone attending your wedding wear the same colors is a recipe for disaster.

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  • Ashley
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    Ashley ·
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    I'm having a DW in Vegas in December with about 50 people, and we have 4 GM & 4 BM- none of them are family. It's all family besides them. You don't have to have one, or you can each have just one person- it's up to you.

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