DEPRESSED & STRESSED OUT- WEDDING CANCELLED

Glad to hear that you have a great support system in place. It's sucks that this happened in the first place, but it's better now than when you are married and children around to witness it. I hope he gets the help that he needs.

I am so sorry to hear this has happened. I am glad you are with your family and they are being so supportive of you. It sounds like you are thinking very clearly about wanting him to seek individual counseling before you would even consider couples counseling with him. This must be a very difficult decision for you to hold to and I am praying for much strength for you right now as you sort through all of this.

So sorry. I'm glad you're taking care of yourself and had the strength to walk out of a difficult situation. Regardless if he attends counseling or not, you will definitely benefit from it.

So sorry that you are faced with such adversity and dramatic, abusive behavior. I'm so glad that you have your family to support you during this troubling time. I hope the best for you as you focus on yourself and building yourself back up. Good luck!

Oh, I'm so sorry!

I'M sorry to hear that happened! Like everyone else said, take care of you first.

I'm sorry that you've been hurt. Please take care of your own well being.

So sorry to have this happen to you. But as PP have said, you are smart to get away when you did. It seems painful now but it is a gift to see how he can behave badly before you make the legal commitment to each other.

My advice is to continue the counseling alone and work on healing yourself. You are in my thoughts. Hugs to you. Stay strong and resist the desire to return to him.

I'm so sorry you're going through this... I pray everything gets sorted out

I'm really sorry you are going through this. And I'm really happy that you know you're worth and left him. I wish you the best.

I'm very sorry that you are going through this. Please take care of yourself and surround yourself with family and friends. I know things are very difficult now but over time it will get better i promise! Sending my well wishes to you.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. But I'm also wondering what else could have happened, perhaps some things you don't know about, that led up to this. No excuses for him AT ALL, but I can't see how an expired debit card could cause this type of behavior. Especially after being together for 20 years. There must be something else going on, and maybe once he has a chance to sort out his issues, he can come to you and fill you in and you can have a better understanding. In the meantime, I think this was the best case. You moving out to remove yourself from the situation. I hope things get better for you, regardless of the outcome.

What an awful thing to go through! I hope you have a good support system. You did the right thing by removing yourself from the situation. It might not hurt to get yourself some counseling to help you process and deal with your emotions as this is a difficult time.

Best of luck to you and positive thoughts being sent!

That sucks. I was engaged for a full year and two months out from my wedding when my ex broke up with me. I know the pain all too well. But you WILL move on, it will take time and pain, but it will happen. A few years later I am SO thankful that he broke up with me. He was verbally abusive and controlling, but I didn't see it back then. Now that I look back on it I do. He did me a favor by breaking up with me, even though it hurt so bad at the time. When your back with a new fiance, someone who truly loves and cares for you, you will think back on this time and feel grateful instead of hurt. You deserve better. It takes a long time to heal from the abuse, but you will. Good luck!

I am so very sorry that this happened to you. You WILL get through this.

Your Ex needs to see a doctor quickly. It sounds like he may have had a stroke or some other neurological event. If he has had a psychological break, get a RO and always be with somebody. This sounds scary.

Has he not exhibited any signs before this, over the last 20 years? Was he on medication (I know that can wreak havoc on a person depending on the meds)? He's apologized but has he explained why he went off the deep end? Did he maybe lose his job and didn't tell you because he was embarrassed and then decided to cancel everything to avoid spending all the money? Lots of reasons for his behavior BUT none of them are acceptable. If he refuses to see a counselor, he's given up on the relationship. You enjoying living with fam until you figure out your next step. Good luck!

I am so sorry this happened to you, and so proud of you for being brave enough to walk away. I wish all the best for you.

Praying for you both. Counseling is important. Please find someone to talk too

I am so sorry. I was in a verbally abusive relationship. I am so glad you got out. I am on facebook Amanda woodworth if you want to talk or vent