Deposit checks before thank you notes are sent out?

No. People would get more annoyed that you hadn't cashed them yet. What I always do when I get money is write the amount of the check/cash on the back of the card so I remember.

Cash them right away. People get crazy when you hold checks...

We called people who gave us large checks and wrote the notes about a week later. One family member gave us an extra large check and we called from the honeymoon!

Why are you waiting three weeks to write your notes? I think it's ok to wait two weeks to cash a check but three is pushing it...most people understand that you're busy after the wedding. It's ok to cash it and then send a note later but your note should arrive before the bank statement.

Deposit them! I don't think anyone would think it was rude if you deposited them first. In fact they would probably appreciate it.

Go ahead and cash them, yes. Three weeks is completely appropriate for a thank you note - way faster than average time, really.

Cash them as soon as possible. It's annoying trying to go through a bank statement and figure out if the check has been cashed. I had one friend cash a check 4 months later, and I thought she'd already done it, causing me to have a balance of $16. I guess I would try to write the money thank you cards first and get them in the mail before the others.

It's ok to cash it and then send a note later but your note should arrive before the bank statement.

My guess is you didn't' have over 200 thank you notes to write, eh? Just starting them NOW.

I am curious how you are wording your thank you card for checks/cash that has been sent? we are starting to recieve some in the mail and i have no clue how to word the thank you cards

Definitely cash them first! I hate when people hold my checks, as Celia said.

Definitely...I hate when I give a check or make a debit card payment for something and it isn't processed right away. No one expects wedding thank you cards immediately, you have some time.

Seeing as some people like to do photo thank you cards and it takes an average of 6-8 weeks to get your pictures back, you're fine. Cash the check and just send the note off with the rest.

Yeah, I'd be one of those who would be super annoyed that you were holding on to my check for so long. Definitely cash them.

Would you wait to use your new glassware or pots and pans until you send the thank yous? Nope! Definitely cash the checks then work on your thank yous. FH gets incredibly irritated when people hold his checks or a charge is pending on his credit card for more than a few days! People will understand that their thank you cards will arrive later. You may want to call the people who gave you large gifts though and thank them over the phone.

I don't know how it works in the US, but in Canada there's a specific time limit for cashing cheques. So yes, definitely cash them. People won't be offended that they haven't received a thank you note. You still have plenty of time to send them out.

Thank you. That's what I figured, but I just wanted to make sure.

I'm waiting to write thank yous because we're doing photo thank you cards. Our ceremony was very small and the card has one of our ceremony pictures with our vows imprinted on it.

You should cash the checks right away - it is not rude. You have up to 3 months after the wedding to write thank you notes. You are fine.

Yes, deposit them ASAP. I hate it when people hold onto checks.

Thanks to mobile banking we will be "depositing" as many check as we can the next day before we leave for our honeymoon. The notes will go out when we get back a week later. People will understand.