Dear Abby: MOG and dress code--oy!

Wow. Some people really are crazy. Not really sure why someone would specifically ask someone to wear something they aren't comfortable with. I attended my cousin's wedding recently and his (soon to be ex) step mother wore this dress that left NOTHING to the imagination. It was very uncomfortable as a guest... Can't imagine asking for that

I went dress shopping with my mom and she chose a color that flattered her and a style she felt great in, that is more important than the wedding being all matchy-matchy. My FMIL went shopping for hers after that (she said she wanted to let me mom choose first so she can get a different style/color). Both of them asked me about colors ahead of time and we talked about what would coordinate if they needed a place to start, but they ultimately chose based on what they liked to wear.

YIKES! How could someone act like that towards their FMIL? Horrible. My mother, FMIL, and our step mothers will be wearing whatever the hell they please! I told them to buy something they feel comfortable and confident in! They know the wedding colors, they're smart people...they will pick something that vibes well. Let the adults adult and purchase a dress that suits them.

P.S. you can always tell when someone is uncomfortable in what they're wearing....

That poor woman! I don't know how you can treat your future family so poorly especially over something so petty. Hopefully that bride gets some sense knocked into her and realizes how wrong she is.

Thank goodness you have an awesome DIL Tina and don't have to worry about those types of shenanigans. By the way, you and the MOB looked amazing!

I would never demand that anyone wear or not wear something. My mother & FMIL, independently of each other, both chose navy dresses. Our colors are plum and gold. They each have body features they would like to camouflage, so they picked dresses they loved and felt comfortable in. THAT is the only important thing. Not making them match or hiding a feature I don't like on them.

The story about the lady in the yellow reminds me of a story on here a few weeks ago. The one about the friend wearing the same dress as the MOB/MOG can't remember exactly.

Rashane, that is the very one I was thinking of. It was so sad

Wow. I wish I would even have a thought that my FMIL couldn't wear what she wanted. This lady definitely has some issues. You would actually stoop so low as to not have your FH mother not come? She is insane. I told my FMIL she can wear whatever she wants! And I'm down with it. This is a self-centered, egotistical, jerk of a woman. Hmph. So rude.

Simply amazing that people like this make it through a day!

That's not a bridezilla that's a bitch plain and simple and I would bet money that the marriage won't last 3 months.

I saw this over the weekend. All I could do was shake my head and groan. Honest to goodness, who the heck does this??

This is crazy, also rude stand your grounds and wear what you want. Some of these issues during wedding planning is so not call for.

And why would she want have someone in the same color as the bride. Get your son and RUUUNNNN. ITS ONLY GONNA GET WORST OVER THE YEAR.

I can't imagine treating my soon to be family like this. I told my mom and FMIL to wear whatever made them feel comfortable and beautiful. It is their day to shine as well in my opinion (since you know they gave birth and raised the two people getting married).

That's just plain awful. I told my mom and FMIL that they could wear any dress they wanted as long as it was a "Springy color". As long as they don't show up in maroon to our April wedding I really just don't care.

Dear god, some people are just evil.

@Pushing Buttons- I'm with you. FMIL asked what I wanted her to wear very soon after we got engaged. I'm pretty sure my response at that time was "clothes."

Telling me what to wear would guarantee I wore the exact opposite, maybe even white! How do you dictate what your mother in law should wear???? My MIL I think expected me to have some sort of requirements and i was like No, you wear whatever you want, whatever you feel beautiful in, because this is your day too. I wanted her to shine right along with the rest of us. If her son lets his new wife treat his mom this way, I'm afraid for her marriage.

You and me both, @mimi!

Ugh, this is awful. That poor woman and her son. Just imagine, the wedding is only the beginning.

Was it ever normal for the bride to choose the MOB and MOG's dress or have requirements? I'm just wondering because my stepmom was realllly weird about choosing her dress and that she'd get my approval "of course." I told her I didn't need to approve of her dress. She even wanted my permission to cut a long dress into a short one. Again I told her I wasn't trying to give a grown woman permission to wear a dress of her choosing.

My stepmom is in her 70's and she's old-fashioned in a lot of things so I can usually chalk it up to that. But I couldn't get my head around this idea.