Dealing with someone you can't STAND who is coming to your wedding...

There are a few people that I would rather not have at my wedding but am inviting them to keep the peace. Say your hellos and niceties in the beginning and pay more attention to the people that you do want to see. Dance with friends etc... I have noticed that friends of the family or older relatives tend to entertained each other and leave the bride and groom to have fun. At least from the weddings I have been to

Kill the woman with kindness! Hug her and thank her for coming and tell her how you're so thrilled to join fh's family officially. I've learned long ago that kindness is a wonderful weapon in these types of situations! lol good luck!

Yep, make a point to smile and thank her for coming....make her look like the ass.

You have to pull the whole "kill them with kindness" routine and lay it on how appreciative you are that they came. I have a few of these "obligatory invitees" as well and I am not going to let anything they say ruin my day.

Ugh, I'm sorry, that really sucks! I can't imagine looking out at all my wedding guests and seeing someone I can't stand. I feel really lucky that we didn't have to invite anyone I dislike out of obligation! There is some family drama going on on FH's side, but that's between his parents and the rest of their family, so at least I don't have to feel personally upset at seeing anyone.

Depending on how big your wedding is, it might not even be an issue. After an initial polite greeting, you'll hopefully be too busy with having a blast to even think about her!

Forget all that mess, why invite her? How would he be with that?

Be cordial, and rise above it. A polite greeting is all that is required. I agree with everyone here. I find the best way to deal with a difficult person is to be so sickly sweet they don't know how to react. It turns the tables, and makes her look like the uncooperative b**ch.

I had this happen to me with two of his aunts, sister, 3 cousins and his grandma. His sister decided to turn his family against me once she found out we were getting married and NONE of those people said hi to me at our wedding. Didn't even congratulate me, just him and walked right passed me. I didn't like them to begin with so when it came time to say hi to the table I walked over, said hi to his dad and the rest of them didn't acknowledge I was there so I walked away. My husband decided to not speak to them for 4 months until his aunt reached out to him and they had a long talk. Now all of them apologized to him because he refused to speak to them if they didn't. I still refuse to have a relationship with any of them until they can apologize to me. There's a lot more to the story as to why I don't like them but I'll save you the time lol.

Hmm usually I agree with the "kill them with kindness" but in this case if you do this, it might seem to her that you are okay with the rude things she said/did and it might give her the opportunity to say/do more mean things. It may be you don't really have to say hi to her. My sister had a little over 50 people at her wedding and didn't have time to say hi to her husband's cousin. Sometimes people just get sort of missed. Just go let loose on the dance floor, have your husband go over on his own to thank her so she feels welcomed at least and don't worry about it. Make it look like you were just having so much fun. I mean if she really was that rude, then I see no reason to try and be all nice to thank her for being there. Have your husband do it since he's still on speaking terms and then let her do her thing the rest of the night. I think you'll have enough other people you like at your wedding you won't even notice her that much.

I agree with Amanda, smile chin up and don't let anyone ruin your day!

Be the better person.

Luckily I didn't have to invite the #1 person, that my family can't stand (I mean, no-one can stand). She and her husband (a relative), were invited to my sister's wedding, the year before mine. They didn't even have the courtesy to RSVP, or send a congratulatory e-mail, after the fact. My Mom said "they're dead to me!", and no-one sends an invitation to dead people.

Since HE loves her and gets along with her, I would just ignore her and let her come. But in some instances, I wouldn't invite such a person. I used to say "If I wouldn't buy him/her breakfast at Denny's, I'm not going to invite this person to the wedding."

You will be too busy to notice her, trust me.

Yup be the bigger person and be gracious to her and thank her for coming. Next.

Two of my aunts aren't invited.They DO NOT get along with my mom and every time they see her they try to start an argument. That will NOT happen on my day so I just eliminated to problem and did not invite them to my wedding....

Yes, My dads girlfriend... My parents have been divorced for over 25 years. This lady knows that! My parents are friends and she cant stand that, but yet is friend with her sons father. but still she is such a B****, When I told my dad we are getting Married in Maui her response was "Oh great my first time to HI and I have to share it with his ex..." Blah blah blah.

I couldn't imagine if we had to deal with that. We've got a step-uncle and his wife who aren't coming. The wife was b*tch to me and never apologized (although she did tell everyone else in the family how sorry she is). They're not coming because neither me nor FH want her there.

If she has to come then kill her with kindness and put her at a table where you won't have to see her. Good luck.

There's some give and take here, I would probably suck it up for FH's sake and be gracious. It will only make her look like a jerk, and not put FH in the middle of it. But HIH is sort of right, it is overlooking what she did... for the wedding, I would suck it up and then try to repair that relationship so that FH doesn't have to deal with it. FH is doing that for me with my dad, and it makes me cry every time I think about it because it means so much to me. Just my experience.

I'm in this situation with PGF. The way I look at it is I won't be seeing her until 6pm at the earliest that day..once we start table visits during dinner. When we get to her table, I will thank her for coming, listen/make idle chit chat for a minute or two and then move. And thats probably the extent I'll have to deal with her...I imagine I'll be all over the place and pulled in different directions that night, and none of those directions will be hers.

Kill her with kindness