Dealing with a difficult bridesmaid.

It sounds like a few opinions here are similar to mine, but here ya go. If you're a BM, you kinda have to suck it up and do what the bride wants, even if you hate what she chooses. I've done it a few times - I literally threw a BM dress away after I got home from the wedding b/c I hated it that much. But - I never said a thing to the bride - it wasn't my day. She loved how all of us BM's looked & that's all that mattered. One suggestion if you haven't chosen the dresses yet - if you're OK with the girls looking a bit diff, choose your color and let them choose a dress (DB is GREAT for this). I have 4 VERY different body shapes for BM's (& 2 are pregnant!), so they've each chosen a dress style that fits their body that they'll feel beautiful in. But - even if they don't like the color, they still have a little bit of freedom in choosing what to wear. Mine have all said that they appreciate the flexibilty to do what they want, while still being considerate of my wishes.

Haven't read all the posts, but love, love, LOVE the shoes!!! Totally something wearable all day/night, with lots of options to worn again and again and again! Great choice!

@Ashley A, I'm planning on making sure all of them attend when we go find bridesmaid dresses. I would really like all my BMs to have the same dress, all of them are almost the same body type. We will see how it goes. This we are waiting on.

@Michele, my sister actually used them this weekend for her high school homecoming!

Thank you everyone for our tips!

Ugh...I agree with you to an extent. This is my opinion.....take it if you want to....I would not have her and her ex in the same bridal party. You're asking for problems regardless if it's your special day or not.

If she's going to be like this, I would cut her now. Next time he goes on a tangent just tell her that she has a choice to make, either she can be in this wedding and keep her opinions to herself and be supportive, or she can excuse herself from the wedding party and come as a guest. It has to be said at some point.

You have a looong ways Miss Amanda, don't worry about the little stuff right now. (like shoes) Look at the big picture and work on the things you have to book way in advance.

Oh, and for some reason I'm getting an error when I try to open up the shoe link They do sound cute though.

I LOVE the shoes. I saved them because I'm also having BMs wear gold shoes and jewelry, and I love those! They look super comfy!