Date Nights instead of Registry

It's a cute idea, but it's way more effort than a lot of people are willing to put into a gift (especially the gift basket idea). I'd honestly just make a very small registry of upgrades and most people will get the hint and give cash.

Honestly, I would just skip the registry and people will give you cash. You could explain this idea to family members and the bridal party, so if they get questions about gifts they can pass it along. I think that is the most tactful way to handle it.

Can't you just do a small registry (there must be some things you'd like to upgrade) and then just assume people will give you money that you can use for dates?

I don't know how you'd convey this information in a tactful way.

OMG. No this is a bad idea. Just don't do a registry and people will give you cash. Its a corny idea, people know how to gift.

I think any way of recommending gifts is going to come off wrong to be honest. It's a cute idea in theory, but once you start putting out "here do this" it comes off as telling them how to give gifts to you. If you aren't doing a registry, people will get the hint and just give you cash.

Your idea sounds great for a wedding shower, if someone is throwing one for you.

Hmmmm... Ughhh... Here's my two cents.

Create a SMALL (nearly microscopic) traditional registry of upgrades (sheets, towels, etc.). Then, if someone decides to throw you a shower, have that shower THEMED as either a recipe shower, stock the HOME bar shower, or a date night shower as you outlined in your post. You'll get just your gifts during the shower and most people will bring checks to the wedding (minus one or two people who will grab from that small registry).

Oh, agree with @Nancy T! Great idea for a shower, where your hosts can communicate the info.

In theory this sounds great, in practice not so much. I like the shower idea PP mentioned, but for the wedding itself, I'd go with small registry and most people will give cash.

Interesting perspective's and much appreciated! Of course everyone I have talked to in my world thinks it is a great idea! Love that I can get more well rounded opinions here!

My thought was that most people would think ...cool I can just stop by the grocery store and quickly grab a restaurant gift card! I only mentioned the gift basket thing as I know some people are all about personalized gifts (so not me...I'm the last minute gift card chick!)

Last minute easy is writing a check and sticking it in a card. Let adults figure it out. They will give you cash and you can save it for your date nights.

@Kathryn...lol...you are absolutely right! Hahaha...can't get much more last minute than a quick signature on a check!

This sounds exactly like a honeyfund except the guests have to come up with the activities instead of the resort/cruiseline/whatever. And you're setting very specific parameters for what people can gift you which actually makes it worse.

Since you don't have a registry, a lot of people might ask you or your parents what you want. I think this is something that could be spread word of mouth but I wouldn't make a date night registry or put it on your website or anything.

I actually gifted a couple a "date night" basket once, but I came up with it myself. Just dont have a registry. People will give cash. Spend it how you want. To me, this is just another tacky way to dictate how guests spend their money

The entire plan was to have my FMIL spread the word as people ask (95% of the guests are her family...I don't have any family beyond Mom and two boys). And perhaps list on the wedding website. Not so much a "Requesr" as it was intended to be the recommendation when people ask. Ah heck...we will gladly take their cash! I just don't want people to feel obligated to pony up more because it is cash. Lol

They will give you the same whether its a gift card or cash trust. Most people have set amounts they give based on relationship tot he couple.

I agree with the other ladies, I like this idea in theory and would love it as a shower gift but I'd say just go with a small, small, small, registry and let the adults but 2 and 2 together.

I think the concept is cute and coming from a good place, but I would probably prefer to just write you a check because it's the easiest = )

The comments all seem so foreign to me...totally not in a bad way...I just NEVER considered that people would actually prefer to give cash!