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Uny Bride
Super June 2016

Date Nights instead of Registry

Uny Bride, on April 25, 2016 at 1:29 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 28

We aren't doing a registry. Own my own home and have been well established for years. Registry items would not actually benefit us and likely end up in some cupboard never to be seen again till garage sale day. I am not an advocate of the whole Honeymoon fund thing or any requests for money as I...

We aren't doing a registry. Own my own home and have been well established for years. Registry items would not actually benefit us and likely end up in some cupboard never to be seen again till garage sale day. I am not an advocate of the whole Honeymoon fund thing or any requests for money as I find that people will feel obligated to give more because it is cash and don't want to look cheap. I certainly do not want to put anyone in a position to feel uncomfortable about the gift giving.

My idea is to recommend people provide gifts to us for "Date Nights." In my mind this means an easy breezy gift card or for those looking to make it more personal to make a little basket of date night items for us.

Thoughts?

28 Comments

  • Patricia
    VIP September 2016
    Patricia ·
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    I think its a really adorable idea and I actually think its a good idea in a way. Unfortunately people don't want to put that much effort into that. I would end up just giving money considering it can b used for whatever you want.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    @Uny Bride - as a way to incorporate that cute idea, you could do a "date night ideas" jar or journal out at the wedding. I've seen those a ton!


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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
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    A lot of times family and friends will just agree with what you say. that's the beauty of WW, no one has any relationship with you and will give you the most honest advice.

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  • Uny Bride
    Super June 2016
    Uny Bride ·
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    @Kathryn...and that is precisely why I thought to ask here! Hahaha...and I'm prepared for others not to agree with me!

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  • LizzyC
    Master April 2016
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    I don't like this, I feel like you're still asking for cash. Just don't have a registry, suggest this as a theme if someone offers to host a shower for you, or have a date night idea jar at a your shower or wedding and use the cash that you will inevitably get toward those ideas.

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  • Rebecca
    Master November 2015
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    I get what you're saying about having FMIL just pass along the word in case people ask. I think the main difficulty would be that unless they know you well, they're not going to know what types of restaurants or activities you like. Just let them gift you cash and then you can use it for a weekend away or date night or whatever you want to do with it.

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  • Uny Bride
    Super June 2016
    Uny Bride ·
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    Good point @Rebecca...and I'm vegetarian...watch we would get a bunch of steakhouse gift cards! Hah!!!

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  • Emily
    Master May 2014
    Emily ·
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    No. This is not a good idea. What you think is "easy breezy", guests may see has a hassle and annoying to have to think of something. Just don't register and certainly don't suggest anything specific like this. Guests will give you something if they wish, of their choice.

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