Dad, stepdad or mom-who should walk me down the aisle?

Mom and step dad for the aisle. Dad for the father daughter dance.

I also come from divorced parents and I am having both of my parents walk me down. I did see one time where the father starts walking the daughter down and then half way the step dad meets them and they both walk her down.

I was raised by my step dad, my father and I did not meet until my early 20's. byes we talk, I call him by his name and I cannot bear to call him dad because my "step"dad was the one that stayed home with me when I was sick, was the one who went to family things, was the one who had the influence on me.... And I could never... Ever look at him and say thank you for putting me before yourself even though I'm another mans child but he's blood he walks me down the aisle. The man that raised you and the man that has given up the most for you is dad, blood doesn't necessarily mean anything.

I don't even like to call him my "step"dad.... I told my bio father that my "step" dad would walk me and that he has been the one that's been there the majority of my life. I will continue to call him dad and having my bio father there in my life isn't going to change anything.

Even if you're hurting people... Which ones would it bother you to hurt most?

I'm going to have both my dad and step dad walk me down (parents divorced when I was 3- step dad mostly raised me with mom but I'm dads only child and even though not as close with him as my step dad he's still my dad) with my mom meeting us up front to give me away...then I plan on doing something with both for father daughter dance-either half the song each or one song each not sure on the details yet

But do what you feel is right in your heart

I love that you all have the choice my father died 4 years ago my parents were married for 50 years my 6 year old son will walk me down the isle. I say that to say my FH was raised by his stepfather that he calls Dad and his name is on our invitations not his bio father. Blood does not always make you family loyalty and respect does. Good luck ladies do what makes you happy it is YOUR day.

You should pick who you want and not worry about other people's feelings. Who walks you down the aisle is a VERY personal decision that we make, and it's one of the major wedding things where I encourage people to make the decision based on what they want and not based on pleasing other people.

My family is similar, two sets of parents. But, I cringe at having someone 'give me away'. It's so old fashioned and I have been and always will be a very independent (and yes stubborn) person. Luckily the venue I chose, I will arrive by gondola and will not walk down an isle at all, so I am pretty much avoiding the issue

Oh and I agree with Stephanie. Nobody here can help you make the decision, it is so so personal and has to be something that you decide on your own.

Why not your mom and your dad? You can always do a fathrr of the bride dance and stepfather of the bride dance.

Thanks ladies! You all have some great ideas, GameCox and Lillie I love the ideas of separate special options for both my dad and stepdad, with the dance vs. walking down the aisle. Same with you Danielle, it sounds like our situations are similar! Amber, I'm so sorry to hear that, but I am certainly happy you have your little man by your side for your walk

My fiance's parents are divorced and our motto has been include more than less! we figure this way on ones feelings will be hurt if we just include everyone as much as we can. its also a nice reminder of how many people love us and want to support us no matter how long they've been in the family or if they're "blood" parents or not.

(in a jewish wedding though the groom is also escorted by his mother and father down the isle so it'll be interesting to see how 5 people fit down the isle at once!)

Lindsay, it does sound like we have very similar situations and now that I'm on my computer (and not the stupid app on my phone!) I can see we're almost date twins too!

I am from a similar situation. So, I will be having my dad walk me from the door of the venue until the chairs where our guests are sitting. (we are getting married outside and there is a great length between the venue and the beginning of the chairs where guests are sitting) Then I will switch and have my mom and stepdad walk me down the short "aisle." This way everyone get a turn. My dad also refused to walk me down with my stepdad -which was my first choice. I think I will then have my dad and mom stand up and do the "who gives this bride away?" part. Ugh - so complicated! Good luck!!

You could do both dads walking you down the aisle and your mom meeting you guys halfway. You can also do Dad walks you down the aisle and stepdad for father/daughter dance or vise versa.

I've come from a very similar background as you.

Originally I was going to walk myself down the aisle. Forget tradition I didn't want to have any hurt feelings.

But then my dad has offered to pay for a large portion of the wedding and has hinted that he wants to walk me down the aisle. I mentioned this to my mom and though she was bothered by it she figured "let him have his moment".

So unless you have any special reason for choosing one over another, then just go down yourself.

No one can truly help you make the decision, but from your post I would assume that you would rather have your mom and "step" dad walk you down. Figure out a way to include your dad in the wedding and realie that it should be what you want that day and who you want to be involved in that very special way. My situation is a little simpler. My dad will walk me down the aisle and my "step" dad who is no longer married to my mom will be sitting in the front row with the rest of my family. My mother is not attending the wedding and so we at least don't have to cross that bridge. I've gone back and forth a lot with it, but at the end of the day I knew my dad would always walk me down the aisle. I don't want anyone to have hurt feelings, but I really only plan on doing this once and my dad is the one who raised me aside from the others although my step dad and I have become much closer since my daughter was born and we live within a few miles. Go with your gut and realize that you can include everyone in some way if you want to.

I'm in a current situation right now!

I know this is a few years later.. but I'm wondering if you ended up going with this plan? How did it work out, and would you mind sharing pictures?

I don't have any pics with me but I did have both fathers walk me down the aisle (one on each side). Then they sat with my mom. Before I walked down the aisle our photographer got this (not planned) pic of them both standing on either side of a doorway with me inside the room I was waiting in as if they were guarding me. It came out cute even though it wasn't planned. For the dances I did one song for each of them (I had the songs shortened a bit for both so it wasn't dragging) and they both gave a speech. For both the dance and speeches I had my dad go first and my step-dad second. Just to keep things "in order" if that makes sense? It just felt right for me to do it that way so my dad didn't feel like he was second in line. It all worked out perfectly and everyone was happy and anyone that attended my wedding knew that both dads are very special to me for different reasons so it only made sense.

I was just informed tonight that my daughter has picked her step dad over me to walk her down the aisle. Betrayal that I will never forgive!!!!