Crazy stocker ex girlfriend

I have learned a lot through this post. I value the personal information shared here. But those of you who keep asking about the "stocker", highlight of my morning.

Documentation and Police..that is all

@Mna Thank you for sharing your story.

I havent read about Asperger's in a about 5 years. You are correct it is not a intellectual disabilities. From what I just researched it is considered a neurological condition on the autistic spectrum.

Clinical diagnosis of ****cognitive disability**** can include Down syndrome, Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), Autism, or Dementia. Clinical diagnosis may also include less severe cognitive conditions such as Dyslexia, Attention Deficit Disorder, Dyscalculia, and other learning disabilities.

(this is from one site, every place I have read has stated a similar thing)

It does not make her actions oky but if her family and people close to her let her use is as an excuse then Asperger's would be the reason for her action. Again I would call the police and let them give her a reality check.

I would call the police

I also cringe at calling Asperger's a mental handicap. Thank you, MNA, for sharing. I've taught MANY students with Asperger's and the ones I had were super intelligent. It is truly a social disorder.

Call the police.

I'm always more than happy to share what I know and deal with when I see misinformation, whether I feel able to openly identify myself at the time (as in here) or not (as in my day to day life). My parents don't even know, because my own mother would try to use it against me.

My best description, to those of you who might be curious, is this: imagine everyone speaks a foreign language from yours. You understand the words but not the meaning, and as you learn the language as a generalization, you also discover that each individual person speaks a totally different dialect that's even more difficult to learn. For instance, when DF and I are on the phone, or we're arguing, I have trouble distinguishing anger, frustration, and being hurt or upset, because to me the body language and vocal tones sound identical. I know what they should sound like on a more global scale, but that doesn't work for close relationships. Likewise, when we're on the phone, he will often ask why I'm sad or down, because I don't really hear my own tone of voice and the phone cuts enough of that information to make it hard to mirror his.

It makes interpersonal relationships difficult. Very difficult. At the same time, there are differences to my thinking that I honestly wouldn't trade away to be neurotypical, either.

Police !

DON'T engage with this person any further. Now that you've told her to stop, do not respond to ANY phone calls, texts, emails, fb messages, etc. Block her on all social media (if you haven't already) and block any "friend" that messages you or him as well. Block her phone number (you can do so straight from iphone). Document any messages you receive, including voicemails. And definitely talk to the police. You may have success with a cease and desist letter from a lawyer, if her behavior doesn't "qualify" for a restraining order yet.

Contact the police. Sounds like harassment

Restraining order. Block all web access. Be sure you report every single accident. No matter how small. You may then use ALL of them to really make the police/doctors do something for safety.

What is she 'stocking'? A police restriction order?? hahaha

@mna thank you for sharing / explaining. My brother has Asperger's so this was making me cringe until I read your comments, explaining it to everyone.

Go to the cops and report everything thing she does to you guys. Also, hire security at your wedding.

I've been looking at this site for a while, but never bothered making an account because I didn't think any of these warranted commenting. However, you calling asperger's syndrome a "mental handicap" is EXTREMELY OFFENSIVE. People with asperger's are extremely high functioning and not "mentally handicap."

That being said, it sounds like you need a no contact order.

This is over a year old.

Stalker*

I had a situation like that. To make things worse she acted as the victim when I never once said anything to her. When she would try to sext my fiance (while she was engaged) i took screenshot of them and sent her to her fiance. That only stopped her for a little bit. Then she started to contact his work. So I just threatened her with a restraining order and it worked! Haven't heard from her since!!