Hi all!
So, I found out through my grandmother that one of my cousins didn't receive their invitation to the wedding. I only have one aunt/uncle who has 4 children, all who are married, and all who are on the guest list with their spouses.
My uncle asked my grandma if my one cousin was invited with his wife because they're the only ones that didn't get their invite. But my grandma swore to secrecy that she wouldn't tell me that he asked. I guess he didn't want to cause drama if they weren't actually invited.
I'm devastated! I love my cousins and it makes me sad to think that they believe they might not be invited, but their siblings and spouses are. How do I get around this, and inquire if they got an invitation, but not make it look like I'm breaking the confidentiality between my uncle and grandma? My mom said she would be willing to message all four of them in a group chat to make sure they got the invites. I don't want to wait until April 14th and start to ask about rsvps, and then the whole family is upset and none of them are coming because they don't think I invited their brother.
My uncle said something to my mom, but he just said "X and X don't know if they're going to make it because she's still breastfeeding and doesn't know if she's ready to spend an evening away yet". So now I'm struck with two sad things - 3/4 cousins have babies. One cousin has a two year old, one have a 7&5 y/o and a 6 month old, and the cousin who didn't get their invites has a newborn. If she's breastfeeding, I want her to feel comfortable bringing the baby if she needs to. However, we can't have the young kids because it's in an art gallery and the venue doesn't allow children running around, etc. etc. Is there any way I can politely say that the breastfeeding babes are allowed, but the older kids aren't? Or should I just leave it alone?