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Lorena
Devoted June 2011

Corsage or boutonniere for mother and FMIL... or nothing?

Lorena, on August 17, 2010 at 11:23 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 24

I don't know if i should get my mother and future mother-in-law a corsage or boutonnier? Or do u not have to give them anything at all. Since men usually get boutonnier i wanted my mother to feel included and i want to make her feel included. Suggetions?

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Latest activity by Cris, on August 18, 2010 at 2:40 PM
  • Stacey
    Expert October 2010
    Stacey ·
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    I would give them something, you can do the wrist corsage or one that they pin on. Just making it girly and not like a guys. I have one for both of the mothers, and grandmothers. Its nice to have something special for them to.

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  • Analy aka T-waffle
    Master October 2009
    Analy aka T-waffle ·
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    ABSOLUTELY!! Both moms should have flowers, as well as grandparents, if you wish.

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  • Rachel W. de L.
    VIP June 2011
    Rachel W. de L. ·
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    I'm doing Mother's roses as part of my ceremony.

    I'll be hiding two roses behind my bouquet as I walk down the aisle... when we reach the end where my father gives me away, I'll be giving him one of the roses for him to give my mom when he sits down. At the end of the ceremony, after we're married (hehe, excited about that bit) and heading back down the aisle, I'll stop where FH's mother is sitting and give her the second flower.

    Basically, a I give you a rose for being my mother all of my life, for raising me and making me the woman I am now... then the second rose is to signify asking my FH's mother to guide me as a wife and in the future a mother and accept me as her daughter.

    It was a beautiful ceremony idea that I read about that I think fits my situation perfectly, so I had to do it. Smiley smile

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  • ursula
    Super October 2010
    ursula ·
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    YES,get them both a corsage....

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  • MelKel
    Master May 2010
    MelKel ·
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    We just made bouts for everyone. hers was just a lil more girly.

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  • athena
    Devoted August 2011
    athena ·
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    I love the hidden flower idea perfect thing to express ur love and grattitude

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  • cuteangelfan
    Super April 2010
    cuteangelfan ·
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    We got corasages for my mom and MIL, but my mom just

    said that I didnt need to and my MIL came up to me and said I really didnt want a corsage, she took it off after the pics...waste of money imo so maybe ask them so you dont waste the money

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  • N
    VIP November 2010
    Nan-sayy ·
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    Im getting my mom and fmil a pin on corsage

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  • kelseyj
    VIP August 2010
    kelseyj ·
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    My mom didn't really care... But she did say she did NOT want a wrist corsage... I was going to get them all the pin on ones but my mom and FMIL got tank top dresses (everything was outside) so there wasn't anything to pin it to really... I just ended up getting them all a single green rose to carry... And then they all forgot... Haha!! I also didn't get bouts for any of my groomsmen... Only DH and my dad... If floors aren't important for you I think the single stem is great... Just get a little vase they can put it in during the reception.

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  • kelseyj
    VIP August 2010
    kelseyj ·
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    Flowers... Not floors... Haha stupid spell check...

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  • STB Mrs.Caissie
    Devoted October 2010
    STB Mrs.Caissie ·
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    We're giving my mom & FMIL & my great aunt pin on corsages with added flowers to make it more girly, my dad & FH's grandfather boutonnieres and FH & his groomsmen are doing pocketsquares.

    It's a nice gesture to identify the MOB & MOG to your guests and makes them feel special too!

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  • Katebonnykate
    Super August 2011
    Katebonnykate ·
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    My mom was fussing about this... she is a plus-size MOB, and she didn't want flowers on her chest drawing any more attention to her. She also was concerned that most wrist bands are too small for her and cut off circulation. It is traditional, though, and when the florist explained that she could have a wrist band that was adjustable, not elastic, she seemed happy enough. I was a little worried for a minute. My FMIL definitely is the sort to want the flowers, and I didn't want my mom to look left out.

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  • peguina
    Expert September 2010
    peguina ·
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    I just asked my mom and FMIL if they wanted a coursage or not and they both said NO lol so only my groomsmen and bridesmaids have flowers

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  • Lynsie
    VIP September 2011
    Lynsie ·
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    We are doing the mother's rose ceremony too that Rachel described above. But my mother and FMIL will also have coursages as well.

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  • Gillian
    Expert February 2011
    Gillian ·
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    We are giving both Mom's matching bouquets of orchids.

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  • Lorena
    Devoted June 2011
    Lorena ·
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    Thanks!

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  • C
    Super June 1978
    C's Mom ·
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    I will be a MOB and I would like to skip flowers but my daughter would like myself and fs mom to have them. I am opting for a corsage that can be attached to my clutch purse.

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  • R
    Devoted July 2010
    Rachel ·
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    Ask them which they prefer to wear. My mom's dress had lace that didn't allow her to pin anything on hers so she had a wrist one but FMIL preferred a pin on because she has really small wrists.

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  • S
    Master February 2011
    Snif ·
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    We're doing pin on ones for both moms and Steve's grandmother. I do like the hidden rose idea too. hmmm....

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  • Crystal
    Expert August 2010
    Crystal ·
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    I'm getting my mom a 2-rose wrist corsage. She wanted wrist, not pin-on. MFIL won't be there.

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