Constructing your own agnostic ceremony...

I wrote ours entirely. i just googled the layouts, found them like the ones posted already. then kinda began writing pieces and put it together. no religion, no "typical" readings, just the important moments, done with our personality. 1 cute quote and 1 short quip about soul mates from greek mythology and thats it.

FH is writing our ceremony and his SIL is officiating. We are both atheists.

No surprise readings. Nothing too long/too religious/too rambling/too weird. You shouldn't be surprised at anything that is written into the ceremony.

Andi, that sounds perfect. I really wasn't into having much, and my FMIL actually told me that the ceremony has to be "more solemn" because people are spending "all this money" to "come to the wedding" and that "they DESERVE to feel like they're at a REAL wedding."

wat.

After that our compromise was to throw in a reading, two if I can find one that actually makes me laugh.

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Ours is sweet but still a tad sassy. i feel like it shouldnt be just "typical", i legit got so bored at a recent wedding during the ceremony, it should reflect the couple. thats what makes it genuine.

King - buff jesus?

ItsGoodToBeKing... I hope that was a joke?

I agree Andi, I went to a wedding a few months ago, friends of FI's family, and by the end of it.... I didn't even know their names, they were mentioned so infrequently. She walked down to the bridal march! It was like watching Father of the Bride....

It'll be real. Not boring.

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If you don't know King, she's definitely kidding :-) That meme really made me laugh.

We did work with a religious officiant but we're not super religious ourselves. We found readings that worked for us and only one was slightly faith based. All of the stuff is already laid out on here and we found readings on OffBeatBride that we really liked. I love Calvin and Hobbes so I think that would be perfect.

This was my favorite reading from ours:

An Excerpt from Union- Robert Fulgham.

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks — all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” — those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” — and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed — well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another — acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this is my husband, this is my wife.

I LOVE that reading! It's so wonderful and perfect, and as an added bonus, gives a little thrust to my FMIL who said my wedding had to be long enough so it felt "real".

Koch-I love those readings! I may snag them. I think that as long as you two can be yourselves while committing to one another, than you're golden. I wouldn't worry about your FMIL. If "somber" isn't what your wedding is about, then scratch it.

We are incorporating several quips and nicknames throughout ours.

Oh, I will ensure there are quips abound. I have personally never been to a wedding ceremony where I wasn't almost asleep by the end.