Confirming Bridal Party/covid Adjustments?

I would reach out to each person individually and ask them. However, I would wait a few more months. The situation is changing so rapidly, especially with the vaccine coming out and the new strain that was discovered in England. We don't know what things will look like yet in August. Maybe reach out in like March, which would still be 6 months out, as I think we may have a better idea of how things are going by then. But when you reach out, I would just say something like "hey, I know Covid has affected everyone in a lot of different ways. We are trying to plan for our August wedding, and I just wanted to check in and see what your comfort level is. I know there have been a lot of changes and I just wanted to see if you are still able and interested in being in the bridal party."

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I can agree with this. Personally I do not think it is offensive regardless of how you word it to just double check if they are able to still be in the bridal party. Reality is this is a rough time and for some comfort level or budget might be a factor. I agree to wait 6 months out and you could do a mass message or as Hannah said reach out to each one. I would just honestly state that you realize things are crazy with corona virus and you would love to have them in the bridal party but you are just double checking that they are still able to be in the party. To me given the situation I would not feel all. I would almost lean on the side of the mass text so no one feels you are personally singling them out as they may think that you are trying to insinuate that you do not want them or if you contact individually let each lady know you are checking w the entire bridal party.

I agree with others about contacting them individually

As someone who had two bridesmaids bail, one two weeks before and another the week of the wedding. I highly recommend talking with them multiple times before the wedding. They might say they will attend now, but as it gets closer things could change. Mine were fine for the first 7 months of the pandemic until suddenly they weren’t, honestly ruined our friendship. Good luck!

I sent out an email to my ladies a couple weeks ago. My wedding is in May and I wanted to touch based with them about my concerns and theirs. I am happy to share the email if you want. It wasn't easy to write, but I think it was well received. It touched on everything we were planning to do, what we were thinking about limiting potential guests, and seeing who had potential concerns. I made sure to make it clear that anyone was free to back out and that I have been limiting my contact with people during covid and would be hesitant myself about any large event. I also made sure to ask about any suggestions any of them had that would make them more comfortable. Right now it is probably hard to tell exactly what things will look like in August, but if you can, let them know they have time to make the decision and that you are monitoring the situation. I think letting them know you are thinking of them, will make them feel better.

I would absolutely do that! My best friend got married a few months ago and she told us that if we can’t make it or if covid gets worse or whatever the circumstances then it’s ok we don’t come (cus 3/4 of us lived out of state from her)

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I’m so sorry that had happened to you! Were they just afraid of confrontation? That’s horrible. I find that for a lot of the people that aren’t putting in the effort or being as involved are the people that I already helped and/or was involved with their weddings.

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I would love to see it if you don’t mind.

I sent out an email a few weeks ago and felt pretty good about it. I have only had 2 people respond so far, so I may need to send another one out in a few weeks. The biggest ask from that was that I needed everybody to choose one of two weekends for doing something for the bridal shower/bachelorette. I have to let work know pretty soon since everybody is trying to work with each other on all of the cancellations and rescheduling from this past year.