Confession

If we wern't sinners... we wouldn't need Jesus. We're all sinners.

Aww Kali that's sad you had that experience. I have a hard time finding a church mainly b/c (from my experience) that some churches have a way of making me feel that my faith in God is through the church then to God, instead of it being a personal relationship with God. I live with my FS and living with someone is not a sin it's having "relations" before marriage, but everyone sins, every day all the time, we're human, it's expected and just ask God for his forgiveness and he will.

I am going through the same thing Jazmine..... Not only couldn't my priest give me absolution but I don't think my parents have either.

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Although I do agree with the Catholic belief, I am in love and there is no one who can keep me away from the man I truly love.

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Just be happy and let the one that counts judge you in the end. Be sorry for your sins and he will forgive

Jazmine i come from a very religious catholic family and although i consider myself catholic i dont confess nor do i attend church often. I do have faith in god, the virgin mary and saints but i just think that it is overwhelming following each and every rule. Dont be so hard on yourself. You dont sound like a bad person, you are simply in love and that is an amazing thing. Like the other ladies said, let god judge you and no one else. Do what makes you happy as long as it is not intended to hurt anyone else. If ever you feel that you need to ask for forgiveness, just pray.

I'm not catholic so I don't know much about it, But I didn't know that the priest had the option of NOT forgiving????!!!?

I am Baptist,so im not that familiar with the Catholic rules...But i beleive as long as u confess to GOD ONLy he can judge you and forgive you. BUt maybe you should find another Church to attend.

But every one is a sinner no one is sin free. I kno i SIN ! lol and i dont become offend when my Pastor preaches and happens to say something about fornication,shaking up,lyin,having un pure thoughts ..ect. It is what it is ...either you continue to do it or change ...

I think the thing is - you told the priest that you were sinning by living with your fiance. So you must believe that this is a sin. Yet you are continuing that by continuing to live with him - when you go to confession, you are supposed to repent your sin and agree not to sin any more. How is the priest supposed to grant you absolution if you are continuing in sin? This is an extreme example, but what if I went to confession and said that I was a murderer, and I'm really sorry, but tomorrow I'm going to go murder again, so please forgive me for my previous sins, despite the fact that I have no intention of changing my sinful lifestyle. If you believe that living with your fiance outside of marriage is sinful and you really want absolution, then you need to demonstrate that you are not going to continue that lifestyle until you are married.

Jazmin,I am not one to judge I have done many sinfull things (who hasn't)

but if you really want to get back into the catholic relegion do you think it's a good idea to go to confession and lie? I personaly would say something like forgive me father for i have sined it has been along time since my last confession,I want to get back into my religion and faith and i am truly sorry for all my sins and would like to be forgiven...hopefully the priest will accept that and forgive..all sins done in one without the detaile....depending on the priest you may have some touble getting married in the church if you and your FS are living together...not that i think there is anything wrong with it...it's jsut finding that one priest that will work with you and not judge to much...good luck

A.B , I totally agree with you, I wasnt mentally ready, especially after not confessing for over 5 years. I went in repenting it of coase, but did not voice it. It was especially hard when it wasnt even a church i attend. I know only God can forgive me and only he knows who i am. Im going into marriage not fully cleaned of all my sins but with faith that I know who I am. All in All, it was a learning experience.

FH and I didn't attend church when we found the a church to have our ceremony in. FH grew up Catholic, I grew up regular ol Christian. Our church for the wedding is Methodist. The Pastor said that if we are to be married here, he would like us to attend the services, which we have been doing almost every Sunday since last December. Also, on our wedding day he gave us the option to take a private confession with him before the ceremony, because we have choosen to live together before marriage.

You know what you need to do in order to feel good about yourself. Both DS and I are more spiritual than religious and that's what suits us. We "lived in sin" if you want to call it that for 2 1/2 years before we were married. I'm not judging you in any way, but I want you to feel good about yourself! I'm with AB on this- if you want to live your life as a Catholic, then you know what you need to do. And do what you feel most comfortable doing.