Cliche Advice that Makes you Go "Ugh"

I HATE when people say so FH "I can't believe you are getting married. Are you sure you want to get married" uh if he wasn't sure, he wouldn't have asked

Random Family Member: You should invite X to your wedding.

Me: Why? I'm not that close to them to want them there.

Random Family Member: Because they will likely decline and send a gift.

Me:

Yes!! the idea of sending an invite based on a getting a good gift is theee worst!!!

"What do you mean you two are waiting to get married in a year and a half to two years? What about when you have kids? You'll be so OLD by then!!"

Or, better yet, "Get married now so you can start having kids!"

"Its going to be the best day of your life". "Hows the wedding planning?"

"There's no backing out now!"

"Why aren't you inviting so-and-so from high school??"

"Why isn't so-and-so a bridesmaid?"

Mine is when my mom tells me to "stop listening to what the internet tells you to do for your wedding"

"In my day we didn't have engagement photos, we just took a picture"

"Why are you letting people tell you what to wear"

"Don't you think you're over thinking things"

... I have such a small budget honestly that my mom usually questions me when I'm trying to come up with ways to save money lol

I love when family says : it's your wedding, do whatever you would like....... just don't have it in this month ......... don't do this....... extra

Basically anything starting with "you know what you need to do..."

How do people just invite themselves to your wedding... Even before they know when it is?

I hate the fact that it seems like some of my FH's friends ONLY talk to me about wedding planning! It's like they don't know what else to talk to me about.

Oh also, "I'm going to be invited right?". Then I feel pressured to invite those people.

My favorite thing has to be any time I talk about ideas I have or things I am going to do for the wedding my sister gives me the stank face. I get it's not her style but I don't think she realizes that makes me doubt EVERY DECISION and it's frustrating.

Agree with everything on this list ... sorry if I am repeating, but these are mine:

"Just enjoy being engaged" ... what does this even mean?

"You should just have a small wedding or elope and save the money" ... unless I asked you for advice or you were part of the decision making process, keep your nose out my financials.

"Don't stress so much, sounds like you have everything under control" ... yes, it's under control because I worked to get it under control.

"I hope you aren't going to wait more than a year to get married" ... from someone who apparently hates long engagements, but doesn't realize it takes a long time to plan a wedding.

Not advice, but other irritating things:

- anything referring to wedding as brides day

- "brides start planning their weddings from when they are little girls" ... uh, generalize much?

- "everyone gets cold feet" ... we've been together 7 years and living together for 5, and have a pet together ... cold feet about what exactly?

"Which side of town are you having your wedding" - while we were still looking at venues ... cos 5 of my family members thought I should plan my wedding around where they live, meanwhile I live on the other side of town to them and my guests were from all over.

- Anyone asking me anytime how the wedding planning was going. Me: I have a project at work that is going to hell, I haven't taken a lunch break in 2 weeks, I need to finish an assignment for my course due tomorrow, thanks for reminding me that I also have a wedding to worry about. For a moment there it was at the back of my mind.

- "Things have changed so much since I planned our wedding" - my mom. Really, in 35 years things have changed? Things aren't the same? Really? In her defense, she didn't mean it badly though, just after the 17th time I heard her say it, I was like: you need a new catchphrase

Omg the "it's your day" one drives me freaking crazy, especially when I'm asking advice or opinions! My mother is the biggest abuser of it. I also hate how both families have been telling FH has to do what I say and he gets no choice on the matter because I'm "the bride, and it's my day." Nah bitches, it's his day too!

"You're ceremony is late" too fucking bad. Don't come than.