Cliche Advice that Makes you Go "Ugh"

I get ideas from my mom and my MOH on DIY decor ideas even though I've told them decor is my last priority and DIY doesnt equal cheap.

Our wedding is in an area known as the north shore but everyone keeps suggesting vendors in a city 2 hours away and guests are even under the impression that our wedding is near that town.

Not advice but my future sister in law eloped and she asked, "So why do you WANT a wedding? I just don't get It! I've never wanted that!" ....i was like, "Well it's a celebration and a special day!".... I also said I would feel sad getting ready by myself the morning of my wedding when I've always imagined my mom and at least my best friends there with me. It was like she wanted me to feel dumb for wanting a wedding.

I haven't gotten this advice in a while but my mom used to constantly tell me "Just elope, it will cost less and I can't help you pay for your wedding".

She changed her tune though after my aunt yelled at her, she got remarried herself and once I actually got engaged. It used to piss me off to no end though because I've always wanted an actual wedding and it doesn't have to be extravagant.

"Don't have a big wedding! Don't expect to get the money back. Cut the guest list and use the money for a house" which isn't horrible advice, but the amount of times I've heard it is what's getting extremely aggravating.

I hate advice that includes the term ADULT...as if adulthood is the only thing to be considered when making decisions. Examples...

"Of course you should let everyone choose how to wear their hair, they are ADULTS!"- No shit!

"Why do you really need help from your BM's-they are ADULTS with their own lives."- Oh really?

It drives me insane!

People who never stop saying things directly to me like ''UGH god we have 274828 weddings this season UGH how annoying when will it end!?''. Like oh right I'm so sorry you were invited to watch people celebrate their love and drink and eat for free all night and celebrate... yeah wow what an inconvenience......

I hate when people say it's "your" day. My FH is paying for the wedding too and is very involved with the planning. He's getting married too. My favorite cringe-worthy thing so far has been, "The wedding day is for the bride, the wedding night is for the groom." Dead.

This isn't Cliche, but whenever someone says "i'm not being pushy. this is your wedding so i'm just making suggestions." OKAY but if it was truly a suggestion then tell me why you go on and on about it after we've turned your "suggestion" down for the 437th time?

or the occasional "you only have room for 160 people? Great, now i have to deal with upset family who cant be invited because of this decision."..... Simple fix: NO YOU DON'T. i HATE when certain people try to guilt trip us about the venue we went with and the amount of people we are allowing.

I feel like people get bored of their lives and they need drama to entertain themselves.

*upside down smiley face*

Also, i feel like in most cases one mother is always more controlling/picky/opinionated about the wedding than the other.

OR the "why would you want a wedding when you can get a house and travel?"

I have just constantly been rolling my eyes, sarcastically smiling, and flaring my nostrils at certain people during our entire engagement. Lol

My mom saw a picture of my wedding dress and messaged me (insert Olaf voice) "But it's so white!" *eyeroll*

Apparently I can't wear white since it's my second marriage. I was going to go for ivory. But white made me look tan. And I never wore a wedding dress for my first marriage.

Most common I've heard so far:

-"Your still young..."

-"You do know you have a whole year to plan your wedding right? Your mind will probably change 3 times" ; mind you I only have a year left

-People who are not on the guest list keep asking me when the date is and specific details such as food and then proceed to give me advise (while in the back of my head i feel awkward because their not invited)

-and my favorite response to those who push me to invite certain individuals not on the list after multiple no's, "This is not a family reunion or a high school reunion"

Ohhh i hate the " things will work themselves out" and the "don't stress" advice. It usually comes from people who get away with not stressing because others have done the legwork for them.

@CrazyPaperDaisy toootally agree with you on the "Don't stress, wedding planning should be fun!"

My personal hatred is towards "don't worry, it's good luck if it rains on your wedding day" *largest eye roll ever*

My FH and I are both meteorologists. If it does rain, I really don't wanna hear "you guys couldn't change the weather for today???" (Aka work) on my wedding day.

When complete strangers ask upon noticing the engagement ring, so when's the wedding? I so want to say your not invited so why do you care? Or Why are you offering to pay for it? Of course that's rude so I don't say it. FH and I have been engaged since 2012 so have been hearing this for a while.

I found myself at a dinner party hosted by full on millionaires. It was my friend's friend and I was dropping her off there. They insisted I stay for dinner. Thank goodness I had a casual dress and not sweat pants haha. While it was a fine evening I'll never forget 2 comments that were thrown about my wedding/planning. I must have said something offhand about saving for the big day.

"Why don't you have a courthouse wedding and then travel? You know you can rent a wedding dress?"

It was so condescending and presumptuous. Like I'm trying to live above my means and have misplaced values. There's some area between millionaires and abject poverty. Their house was a literal castle. A historical landmark and it was their weekend house. The daughter didn't understand that you could buy property without having to be interviewed by a Co-op.

Also "You should save the money and buy a house." Already bought a house so...

They actually seemed disappointed in that answer. WTF.

This is a great thread! I've heard many of these!

I hear a lot from my parents, "Don't worry about the money" which, sounds great to hear in theory, but it's just a manipulation phrase. They don't really think my choices are "good enough" so they use this phrase as a way of calling me cheap or tacky! BOO, Parents.

"Why dont you have a simple wedding if your only getting married legally not in a church?" (Eye roll) because i fucking want to.

FH's family always points at him and tells me "Are you sure you want to be stuck with him? There's still time to change your mind" I know it's a joke but still so awkward