Cliche Advice that Makes you Go "Ugh"

Omg the "it's your day do what you want" advice is just awful.

Also the "self catering is fine" no no it's not.

I hateeee "it's your day". Actually it's not. It's OUR day, for one.

I seriously when people ask me on a daily basis at work "how's wedding planning". Ugh

Me: mentions something cool I'd like to have at the wedding

Other people: "idk why you're spending so much money on this. You don't need to impress people. Don't waste money on a wedding."

1. Not trying to impress anyone

2. Paying for it ourselves and not going into debt for it

3. I do what I want!

My FMIL actually said "Well the wedding is really about the bride." Like no? We're having a wedding because your son wanted one? It's our wedding.

People: "how are you today, you seem a little stressed"

Me: "yeah, I am a little."

People: "Wedding planning?"

Me in my head: "no not fucking wedding planning! There is more to my life than planning a fucking wedding GOD!"

Me: "yeah, sure, wedding planning"

(^is my comment cut off to everyone or just me?)

Haven't you been married before? Why don't you just go to the courthouse and be done with it.

"Why are you only having a 4 hour reception, mine was 5" .. good for you and GFY .. that's my response.

Also the "I am sure it will be great, as long as you are happy with it" ..

Groan-worthy advice I have gotten:

"It's all about the bride, don't worry about your fiance! He just has to show up with a haircut and a tux!"

Definitely not! Thankfully, he wants to be involved. Frankly, I wouldn't give him a choice, heh.

"Don't bother with a big wedding, you won't make your money back"

If you're hosting a wedding to make money, of course you will be disappointed. That's not the point. Host the wedding you can reasonably afford and treat gifts (large or small) as happy surprises.

It's not advice, but I hated everyone asking me "are you nervous?"

I love my mother to death, but seriously if I heard one more time "Well at our wedding we did it like this." My parents were married in 1962. Some things might be a little different now.

She probably said that the same number of times my MIL said "You could've just had it in your backyard."

" why would you have your wedding on NYE? "

Because we F*cking wanted to!

"why are you having a big ceremony? isn't this your second wedding?"

grrrr as if because we have both been married before so this wedding shouldn't be celebrated! I just answer with "well.... yes we have, but we have never been married to each other before. So should I just put you down as a No for the wedding?

that usually shuts them up!

Oh, my FMIL tried soooo hard to convince me to get married on a cruise so that our honeymoon could start right there! She was saying that the ships are so big, we would hardly see the family aside from our dinner together every day...

Hard pass!!

This isn't advice but..

"I can't wait for you wedding!" - from person not on guest list

OR

"I understand weddings are expensive, I'll pay for my plate!"

FYI I don't ever bring up these topics myself.

I HATE when people tell me "you know the courthouse is a lot cheaper" and then continue to carry on about how no one cares about marriage anymore, just the wedding.

So I guess I can't actually be excited and ready for marriage with my FH AND throw a party to celebrate? Smdh.

I hate it when people that have shitty relationships try to give me relationship advice. H's uncle has been divorced three times - does he really think I'm taking anything he says seriously?

@ kreestan yes!!! I hate that. Some people assume you only care about the wedding and/or have mommy and daddy's credit cards. We're saving and sacrificing to host a wedding because we are so excited about getting married!

"Statistically, the less a couple spends on a wedding, the longer they stay together!"

I was just in a wedding and after the rehearsal, the officiant gathered everyone together and started going on and on about how it was "her" day. The bride literally corrected 6 times saying "no it's our day" and he just kept repeating it. It was so uncomfortable.